elle_em Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I'm 22, and have been with my boyfriend for a year and 8 months. Of those 20 months, 12 have been long distance. My boyfriend is American, myself Canadian. We met through a friend of mine while he was in Canada playing hockey. So far, we have been very lucky in our long distance situation. We see each other nearly every weekend. Either he makes the long drive here, or I drive down to see him. The longest period of time we have spent apart is two weeks... and it is absolute hell. I hear the stories of people spending months apart and not only am I amazed that they can do it, but it makes my stomach do a flip. Now, after this year and 8 months of mild long distance, we're now going to experience a period of longer times apart. There will be instances where a month will pass without seeing one another, but typically the time apart will be two weeks. What's most troubling to me, is that this has the potential to go on for four full years, without break. We wont be able to see each other because of his hectic college hockey schedule, and there will be days in the week where our schedules won't leave us any room to talk. Its such a scary thought and I question myself everyday whether or not I will have the strength to endure it. I really don't see myself having a choice in the matter because to be without him forever just wont do, but i can't imagine the heartache... and wonder how people do it. All I want is to be with him. Selfishly enough I just wish he felt a stronger need to be close to me than to be far away with a hugely hectic hockey schedule plus his studies. I feel so selfish and guilty but in the back of my head and heart I hold out hope that in the midst of him going away to experience this, he will just miss me so much that he will want to transfer closer to me. The unfortunate part of that being that there isn't really an option to play hockey close to me and he would have to give that up. What do you do, or where do you look for encouragement during a sometimes very thankless and strenuous committment? I feel like my whole life is on hold waiting for him to pursue his dream... and all I want is to be with him. Thinking of the years we have a head of us... I get so overwhelmed and so scared. Any advice, encouragement or stories would be appreciated. Link to comment
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