what is he doing?

[lizzzy111]

so we broke up as you know over two months ago. he has been trying to talk/see me ever since but he treated me bad and i have told him i dont want to talk that there is nothing to say for some time now. he wrote to me and i wrote back a mature letter telling him how i dont want to talk the feelings are still raw and i cant even imagine a situation were we would both end the conversation happy, so he went ahead and sent me flowers to my apt. the note wasnt even like i wanna be with you just like hope your well and yada yada some other bull * * * * about beauty and how it relates to me and the flower. i thought it was messed up of him to send them after i told him how i felt its like he is getting in my face even more about it. i told him i dont know what your trying to do but please dont send me anything and he was was like im sorry it was a bad idea. so anyways i said ok and please just delete my number from your phone. cause he started texting me again and its hard for me not to respond when he starts. then he was like well you dont have to be a * * * * * ...what can i possibly do to get him to stop. he isnt even sincere about the things he does i just think he knows he mesed the realtionship up so he wants to feel better about himself. well in the mean time its driving me crazy and holding me back! any ideas?

[DN]

Tell him that if he continues you will obtain a restraining order.

[lizzzy111]

not sure if that is necessary. i just dont know what exactly he is trying to accomplish..its bring me down.

[DN]

The threat will often accomplish what you want without having to carry it out - it shows you are serious about not wanting him to contact you.

[lizzzy111]

why does it have to get to that point? why cant he just see where i am coming from and back off considering he was horrible to me most of the relationship. i dont get what he is trying to do by sending my flowers? and trying to get me to talk to him...what does he want i know its not to get back together