Fighting the urge to contact

[Hopeful99]

Maybe I have the Sunday blahs....I have the urge to contact her soooo bad. Just want to say hi. Even though she has initiated no contact with me since February....still find it hard to fathom she thinks so little of me....after saying so many great things about me during the relationship...after it was over it was like I treated her like crap - which was not the case.

 

Days like this I wonder if she ever thinks about me, her decision, etc. Again, I treated her very well during the relationship...she had some emotional baggage.

 

Should I just stick to NC? I have been on 2 mos now.

 

Thanks for your help.

[beingbrave]

I'm concerned. You guys haven't spoken since February and you still think about her often?

 

Let me ask you this?

 

What are you doing or what have you done to keep your mind off of her? Are you keeping yourself occuppied? I know that it can be hard to let go of a relationship, I've been there before. It's one of the hardest things to do, because love is addicting. It's like a drug.

 

You just have to keep yourself busy. You have to go out there and find new people to hang out with. Do new things, become adventourous.

[Gratsy]

I know how you feel. I just say treat it as though you have a sickness that the remedy is time and doing other things and finding other people.

[daveymoore1]

i just got the news she wanted to break up last week. i've been up and down up till now but today (sunday) i have been down as far as i've gotten. i don't think i'll have a big problem filling in the week during day (work) and the weekend nights (going out w/ friends)... but its the little moments that i would love w/ her - the sunday nights, the nights during the week, the downtime, that i can't seem to find a way to keep busy or put something in place of the best moments we had together. i feel like such a wuss right now.

[AtMyWitsEnd]

my husband told me it was over yesterday. I am in mourning over the death of our marriage. Grieving. I want to contact him SO bad...I obviously still live with him and he and I have a pleasant enough relationship but I am so hurt and constantly want to reach out to him and he doesn't seem to really care the way I do and every time I have that realization over again, there's a fresh wave of grief and pain. It's hard to fight the urge to reach out to someone you've reached out to so many times before. It's like an addiction.