StartingLine Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I go out to the bars with my friends quite a bit, but I always said I never wanted to meet a guy in a bar because it seemed sketchy. This weekend I ended up talking to a really attractive nice guy at the bar and he asked if I wanted to go to dinner this week. We exchanged numbers and then he acknowledged the sketchy parts of bar meets and suggested that if I wanted to go to dinner I should call him. Is it a bad idea to go out with a guy I met in bar? Should I call him? I should also probably add that I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years about 5 months ago so this whole dating thing is really new to me and I am not sure what to do or what the rules are. Link to comment
MorningBell Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Of course you shouldn't. Imagine the horrendously revolting caliber of person that it takes to GO to a bar in general. Beyond that, you must also certainly agree that every man and woman that goes to a bar on any occasion must certainly be looking for casual sex. For those reasons, I think he should avoid you, as you are only looking for sex (and may potentially even stoop to date raping him). Link to comment
x_perfect_stranger_x Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I think you should go. Ive met heaps of guys from clubs and bars and its been great. You can both choose to meet up at anywhere thats public, I dont think you should tell him where you live or get him to pick you up, you should both meet there (just to be safe). Just go and have fun, you never know if you dont go. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I think you should, but meet in public for awhile, meet his friends, let your friends meet him and his friends and such before you start going anywhere that isn't in public with him. paranoid yes, but you never know what will happen!! people are crazy these days. obviously, you shouldn't turn down a guy for this reason alone. so call him. just be safe, and take precautions! lots of people meet people at bars after they graduate because there aren't many places to meet other people. goodluck! Link to comment
heavenearth Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 StartingLine, not everyone you meet at bars is going to be bad people. It's like people we meet on the streets, friends of friends, parties, etc. How would you know those people don't go to the bars? I used to not like going to bars and clubs but tagged along with my friends every now and then. Now I enjoy going every second weeks or so because some people I meet there are just amazing both men and women. People tend to open up more with a few alcohols, laughs and smiles, some flirting doesn't hurt and you get to talk to people from a whole different range of backgrounds. As much as there are good people hanging around bars, you will meet the ones you wouldn't want to see again and want to watch out for. You'll have to use common sense and usual people skills to sus them out. How is this guy as a person other than his physical appearance, etc. Link to comment
kuhl282000 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 many people in bars are good people just going out for a good time ....where else can you meet people except online.........he may be a really nice person ....give him a call if you feel attracted to him ....it may be a pleasent surprise Link to comment
maynards_razorblade69 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 YOU went to a bar - does that make you sketchy?? No. He's probably just a normal guy, nice, friendly, looking for a nice friendly girl. You never know, before he went out that night he might have thought 'Sigh...don't really want to go to a bar, meeting girls in a bar is really sketchy...'. He might turn out to be the love of your life, go for it! Link to comment
AM_Bayard Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 This post blows my mind. Why do you GO to bars all the time if you don't want to meet anyone there? It's cheaper to drink at home, and easier to hear your friends talk. The only real reason to go to a bar in the FIRST PLACE is to enjoy the possibility that you might meet someone new. Right? What am I missing? Are a lot of girls going out on the weekends hoping to AVOID meeting people? Really? Why? Just to tease us? Cruel. Link to comment
Shudder Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 a bar is probably a lot less sketchy than a nightclub. Link to comment
brian123 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Id much rather meet a nice girl I can settle down with than have casual sex. I go to church regularly and am well educated. Ive never done drugs. I am out to bars 4x/wk. Not everyone is shady you meet at bars. Many are and you should be careful. Link to comment
Lainers Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Go for it. Honestly, if you think people at bars are sketchy take a look at yourself! Are you a shady character? You were at that bar too! Super Serial, go for it. Link to comment
MrRight Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I think you should go out. Better to meet someone in a bar than meeting someone online. There are good people going to bars, too. Link to comment
surfjon Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I'm with morningbell..... I'm a stoop-shouldered neanderthal who can only breath in thru his mouth, but I've clubbed many a fine cave-girl and dragged her unconscious to my cave after a night at the local pub........ avoid bars like poison, that's where we reel you girls outta, like so many hooked snapper on a drift boat. Only nefarious bottom feeders frequent alcohol establishments, especially avoid the places that don't have food !!! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 there are good people everywhere. half the people you see walking around in business attire during the day, guess what, they go out. i know it's hard to believe, but a bar doesn't make a you a bad person. if you can't figure out people, you shouldn't go out anyways. Link to comment
ycmanvs Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 It sounds like you liked this guy and enjoyed meeting him, so why not take a chance? Give him a call and see if you can set up a date where you can get to know him over dinner. Link to comment
law1204 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Why do you GO to bars all the time if you don't want to meet anyone there? Because most of us do not have either a pool table or a jukebox or darts at our house. I happen to like those. I think meeting people at bars maybe depends on the bar. I met a guy at one once and he was NOT the nice guy he was at the bar. No reason why you shouldn't call him or go out, just put him through the same vetting process you put anyone else through. Just don't jump right in. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Of course you shouldn't. Imagine the horrendously revolting caliber of person that it takes to GO to a bar in general. Beyond that, you must also certainly agree that every man and woman that goes to a bar on any occasion must certainly be looking for casual sex. For those reasons, I think he should avoid you, as you are only looking for sex (and may potentially even stoop to date raping him). i dont know if this guy is chokin your chain or what but i disagree with this post. I go to the bars with friends and im not looking for casual sex. i go to just get out and have fun. i dont even care if i meet anyone new. I think this guy may be genuine. if he wanted to sleep with you right away he would have tried to come on to you or take you to his place but the fact he acknowledged that bars can be labeled a certain way he seems legit. go for it. have fun! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 i dont know if this guy is chokin your chain or what but i disagree with this post. I go to the bars with friends and im not looking for casual sex. i go to just get out and have fun. i dont even care if i meet anyone new. I think this guy may be genuine. if he wanted to sleep with you right away he would have tried to come on to you or take you to his place but the fact he acknowledged that bars can be labeled a certain way he seems legit. go for it. have fun! no way drew. once you cross the doorframe walking into a bar, you aren't even a person anymore. this is apparently according to some posts here. :S Link to comment
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