silentxwind Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Is it possible for a man to have sexual thoughts about only one woman throughout his life? I'm not asking whether this is right or wrong, I'm asking whether it's biologically/mentally possible or not. Link to comment
joan Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Interesting question. I think the answer would be a NO sorry guys. But i also think women as well have "thoughts" about more than one person through their lives. Now that may be a celebrity figure or passerby i am sure thoughts creep in now and then. Link to comment
mr me Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Well i could say yes but not in a sane way. The guy could become obsessed or brainwashed to just think about one person. I had that happen with my ex in an abusive relationship that im still kinda trying to get myself out of doing that. I think its not really a good idea and i dont think it happens naturally. I try to look at myself like a one woman type of guy but i dont really think that means that i only would think of one person. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 It's POSSIBLE, but it usually doesn't happen. Doesn't happen with women either. Thoughts that stem from biological drives are powerful. Link to comment
blueeyedme Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 No, I do not think it's possible. In addition to that, I think it is also nearly impossible to have the same partner for life. Everyone changes and even strong couples outgrow each other. Kudos to those who adapt and make the adjustments that make it work. Link to comment
livefree Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I'm sure at some point any given person--man or woman--will have a sexual thought about someone other than their significant other. For most maybe not in a serious manner. And for others, maybe these thoughts come at a more unhealthy rate. If it doesn't come during a daydream, or when an attractive lady walks by in a miniskirt, or so on...maybe these visions would even show up in a dream? Depending on the degree, I don't think this is any indication of unfaithfulness, or even the desire to be unfaithful, but rather just the act of being human. It'd be really hard for me to believe that it's uncommon to occasionally have sexual thoughts about someone else. Link to comment
luvs2kayak Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Highly doubtful. My fiancee is incredibly attracted to me, and we have a very active sex life, but he still notices other women and he'll tell me about it. For ex., "Did you see how big that girl's boobs were?" Me: "Not really. I don't look at those things." I think it's funny, and very natural for men to do this, and it is definitely not a threat........ it's just how guys are wired........ Link to comment
joan Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 luvs2kayak - my guy does that as well and its no big deal!! i am sure for some it may be, but i rather him be totally honest with me and we can laugh about it, then for him to be checking something out and keeping it to himself. Link to comment
luvs2kayak Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 joan, it doesn't bother me one bit either-- i thought i was weird-- but i think it's funny, and we laugh about it, too. good to hear i'm not alone!!! Link to comment
RockabillyLove Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Yes, it's possible. I don't look or think about other men in any sexual way at all, and I've been with my man for 6 years. You just have to WANT to be completely faithful. Link to comment
kuhl282000 Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Yes he can ................................... Link to comment
greensleeves Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I think it's possible but rare that either a man or a woman can go through life without having sexual thoughts about someone else. I saw a documentary the other night that even most bird species that were formerly thought to be monogamist actually aren't. However, you can find someone attractive without necessarily having sexual thoughts about them. link removed Link to comment
thejigsup Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I've been with my bf for nine years and of course I think of other men in a sexual manner! Everyone does! Would I act on these thoughts? NO way! I love and respect him and myself too much to do that. But everyone who is sexual will have thoughts, it has nothing to do with love. Sex and love are two separate things. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Is it possible for a man to have sexual thoughts about only one woman throughout his life? I'm not asking whether this is right or wrong, I'm asking whether it's biologically/mentally possible or not. I can I believe its very possible if a person can learn to do something and practice it for life such as walking and such my belief is when he marrys that person that should be his exact intentions. However its got to be with the right person. Link to comment
bertdru Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 Why restrict the question to guys? No I don't think it is possible. Women are no different. Link to comment
Superfreak Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 I don't want to say its impossible but I'd say it's probably rare enough to essentially be considered impossible for a man or woman to never have any sexual thoughts about anyone else for the rest of there lives. Even Priests have sexual fantasies. I'd also find it really silly for me to expect my partner never to have any remotely sexual thoughts about other men. I don't consider thoughts to be a crime, I consider actions to be. Link to comment
Jelina Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I don't think that it is possible. I haven't even had sex yet with my first boyfriend but I know I have had my fair share of dirty thoughts about other guys but I def. wouldn't act out on it. I can't imagine how it would be for someone who is sexually active. I do it so I expect my S.O. to do it also. Link to comment
meinreallife Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 Sorry to all those romantics out there...but no man goes through life thinking of only one women. It goes completely against evolution and biology. Now...can a man think of only one women when he is in love? Can he put aside thoughts of others to only focus on her? YES!! Will his eyes momentarily be pulled at the beautiful woman with the soft auburn hair, beautiful brown eyes wearing the summer dress that sways in the breeze? YES!! Women...do not try to figure out men. Men can't figure out themselves. We are romantics and beasts. It is best to talk to us when we are the former. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I'd say it is pretty rare and unrealistic. Link to comment
fastball2113 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 I can't stay romantically attatched to a woman for a day let alone a lifetime. No man can be mentally faithful for a lifetime, otherwise pornography wouldn't be such a huge industry.... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 no. but faithful, yes. i want to point out that that is not cheating. so the word faithful doesn't apply here. Link to comment
Iakasot Posted July 28, 2008 Share Posted July 28, 2008 If a guy does acid and turns into a glass of orange juice he can Link to comment
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