isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 It's incredible how much ONE person in our lives can turn our worlds upside down when they leave us...where you feel like you have nothing, that if you could just find any way out of the pain, you'd do it. I know there's lots of us that feel like that right now. So my question is this cause I could definitely use some different perspectives... How do you make it stop? How do you stop yourself from constantly wanting to call, text, email, write...some sort of contact every 2 seconds!??! Had to add this question. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I dont even know. its been two days, it kills me inside. I want to be with him, in his arms, I want HIM to pick me up from work, I want a text...anything. I know he was an awful person to me and to others, I wish I knew how to make it stop Link to comment
LBP Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 there's no timeline for it... You'll find your peace, and your wisdom, at your own pace. Do consider for the future: do you really want to involve yourself with a person such that they have a greater control over your personal happiness than you do? Sounds jaded, but think about it. Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Very good point. But, isn't it the other person that brings that happiness? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I get what you mean here. Like I feel freer cos I dont have to worry about getting texts or attention to know he cares. Theres no more worrying and needing him....I dunno. your right! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 But, isn't it the other person that brings that happiness? Bad question. Other people do not bring our happiness, we make our own. Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 I knew i worded that wrong...they are responsible for "contributing" to our happiness but then filled with sadness when it's gone. Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 However, I am still wondering what techniques or things people to do to keep from contacting that person?? Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Welll, I deleted my facebook and myspace. I deleted his number out of my phone (I still know it but its less tempting) I just avoid him adn his friends and any reminders of him. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 The only thing that makes it better unfortunately is time. I have been where you are and it is not pretty, I understand. Give it time and take everything a day at a time. Sometimes take it a minute at a time. You will get through it and come out stronger at the end of the journey. Link to comment
John Bendix Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Very good point. But, isn't it the other person that brings that happiness? No, and that's the point. Happiness is an emotional reaction that you create in response to your perceived life situation. You can be miserable or happy by your own reaction, even if the situation has not changed. "One man's hell is another man's heaven". You alone are responsible for your feeling of happiness. Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 I don't think i'm ready to do the deleting her from my facebook, phone etc., yet....although it prob would be a good idea. As for time....every second that goes by feels like a decade. So slow! But i do understand...just have to get there i guess eh. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Get rid of anything that reminds you of the ex and keep busy so you don't have time to think. Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Get rid of anything that reminds you of the ex and keep busy so you don't have time to think. That's what I'm trying now...I guess i just have a few more phases to go through until i start feeling the change. Link to comment
2nd Best Posted July 30, 2008 Share Posted July 30, 2008 What may work for me...may not work for you. Everytime I thought about calling her, I thought about the pain that she caused me during that time. I thought about how she continued to reject my efforts and how I was just on "standby" to be there at her becking call. Those were some of the contributing factors that enabled me stop making so much effort. I mean after a while...I got tired of calling her, getting her voicemail and no returned calls unless she wanted to be bothered. You will get tired eventually. It's still rather fresh for you so you are going to do those things until you get fed up. Link to comment
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