giggle3474 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Any of you following my story know my b/f broke up with me a few weeks ago. We went NC for a little bit but ended up going away for his birthday. I didn't expect us to get back together just because we went away for the weekend but I thought maybe if it went well he would be more willing to talk about working it out for the future. So the weekend went great. I mean it was truly fabulous. He treated me like a queen the entire weekend. We talked briefly after we got back but not about anything serious. Well yesterday I went to see him for lunch. During lunch I had asked him how he felt about maybe working things out. He said he had made it clear to me before we left that he wasn't open to that. He said he has made his decision and he wants time and space and does not want a girlfriend to be obligated to right now. I got really upset because it seemed like he was closing his mind entirely. No room for any talking, no room for any compromise - nothing. I told him I felt really used not because he went away with me for the weekend, not because we had sex but because of all the other intimate things he did. He did "committed relationship" things... calling me his girl, holding my hand, resting his hand on my leg while we were seated, making future plans with me, etc etc. That's what really hurts my feelings. He didn't have to do all that. I KNOW in my heart that it wasn't an act but at the same time, I don't see how he could do all that to me and with me and not be affected by it in some way. When I brought all this up to him, he was not interested in talking about it. He was actually quite mean about it and I don't know if it was because of me or because he was tired from work or what. He said his mind hadn't changed and I should know that because he told me it wasn't going to before we went away. But his actions told me different.... I am so hurt right now, I feel like this is the worst thing he has ever done to me. I was so upset and crying and he just wouldn't barely look at me. He is not usually like this, ya know? I've enjoyed our relationship so much because I've always been able to talk and communicate with him. I feel like there is no hope now. It breaks my heart to feel like the only choice I have is to give up. I just don't know what else to do though. I told him that it sucks that I am almost sure that at one point he is going to want to get back together and why does my heart have to be completely shattered for us to get there? He says he's not trying to break my heart and it has crossed his mind that I'm THE one he'll end up with. I'm being impatient, I know Im pushing the issue. But I just thought we were so close to being able to work this out and I do not for the life of me understand why he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. He can be independent and still have a girl. We are supposed to be enhancements to each others lives and I feel like he's looking at me and feeling he would have to 'give up' too much for it to be worth it. Link to comment
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