poppie Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Hi Everyone, Quick run through of what's happened so far. We split up nearly six weeks ago after nearly 6 years together because he did not know if he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life and he didn't want all the responsiblilty that family life brought. It was a very emotional break up with both of us crying. Ultimately it was my decision to call it a day but we went from "what are we going to have for dinner" conversation to him packing his bags and leaving. All over and done with in 30 mins flat, i still don't know how we went from the conversation of dinner to us breaking up. Anyway there has been very little contact. I got a phone call 24 days later (the first contact since it happened) to say he had got my daughter a birthday card with some money in and he would drop it in. I said no, that seeing him would just be too hard and to give it to his Mum to give to me.She only lives 5 mins up the road and he was coming home for the weekend. (he is in the Royal Navy) About a week later i forwarded some emails to his ship, i put a couple of lines nothing much, just that i still found it very strange not talking to him each night, that the builders who had been here forever had finally left, and to take care and that was about it. I received an email back that same day to say he missed talking to me as well, told me what he had been doing and that if i was stuck for a lift to Ashford for my October trip to Disney then he would drop us off and pick us up. A week later i got a txt to thank me for the birthday card i sent, (my girls wanted to send him a card) I sent once back saying he was welcome. Now after that i decided that that was it, there would be no more forwarding emails, no more sending anything to him. I suppose i wanted to see if he would get in contact off his own back. Please bear in mind that this is a man who just does not send emails, txts anything really. He hated typing due to his one finger ability so it takes him ages. His own family got so sick to death of sending him emails and never hearing anything back that they stopped sending them. He is also a man that shows no emotion,he is in the military so just has a way of cutting people out of his life as if they were dead. His last girlfriend, he got sick of and just disappeared. He never took her calls, anything. It doesn't bother him in the slightest. Well yesterday i got an email from him, i wasn't expecting one for the above reasons and also the fact that we had now gone our separate ways. It made me realise that he is really struggling to let go, he is finding alot harder than he thought. It told me all what he had been doing, that he hoped i was ok, asked if my daughter had a nice birthday and a few other things. Now this is where i am stuck. I haven't replied or done anything yet. Part of me wants to reply of course but i really don't know. Should i maybe lay all my cards on the table, ie, tell him that unless he wants to sit down and talk about us then he has to let go, no emails, txts anything.Do i ignore it, or do i even continue the sending emails back and forth for the time being. I am so confused by it all. Please help Link to comment
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