darklinglena Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 This is my first post on here and the only reason I am doing this is cos it's anonymous and all. >. I have been in this relationship 4 years. Two years ago he joined the military and since then we've been in a long distance relationship. I have always been faithful and far has I know he has too which I trust he has been. Last year he proposed marriage and I said yes. Ok so everything was awesome until we set the date. I guess I kinda pushed for one cos I was so excited to be getting married, living together, no more seperation and all that. *sigh* I started planning the wedding and making plans for the move and all. The day I bought the dress something changed. I feel like that made things so real that he freaked out (cold feet) and we started bickering. First we bickered about stupid ass stuff then it got very serious and hurtful for about 3 weeks. I'm talking yelling on the phone, crying, bad, bad time. It was a very tense emotional situation. We worked through that but issues that happened in the past kept coming up with him. He feels I love my father more than I'll ever love any other man and he just can't compare. Mmkay his family was the American dream basically, trophy wife, middle class family and such. Mine was broken, I didn't know my dad close until he was shot and almost killed 7 years ago. My dad and I began our relationship about 6 months after I started dating my fiance so he felt he was there first since my dad wasnt most of my life. * * * is what I am thinking cos it's MY DAD. C'mon. Seriously. I say this cos we say eachother earlier this month and a tense situation happened between him and my dad. I was literally in the middle and both looked at me expecting me to pick sides. I just shrugged and ignored them both so my dad kinda took it for a win against my fiance. My fiance and I had a big blowup about that and he feels I betrayed him or his feelings over this. I try and understand but I CAN'T! I honestly 100% don't see how that is or was betrayal! After he left things have been sore...were both hurt over this. I took the hit and told him I think we should wait on being married. My reasoning is I'd rather us wait and repair what is left of our relationship than go ahead into a marriage on these terms. He was needless to say, devestated. So am I...I really want to marry him but I'm so hurt by all this. I'm dreading telling my folks or his or anyone...our wedding was 2 and a half months away too. This being a long distance relationship makes it even harder. Anyone have any advice? How can we repair this?! Thanks. Link to comment
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