Anonymous122 Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 I've been here a few times before, and I recently suffered a breakup with the same woman that I posted about previously. It turned out that she has borderline personality disorder, and she was completely unwilling to seek help. Her mood swings got out of control, she began breaking things, and she got even more violent than usual. Eventually, my roommate got involved because he was sick of hearing her have fits all the time, and she agreed to get help... I took her to the hospital, and she told them that she was okay, so they sent her home, which was the exact opposite of the plan that we had come up with. She said that she would stay there for a few days and try to get some immediate help, but she changed her mind when we got there. After that, I couldn't take it anymore, and I told her that she needed to go and stay with her parents. She broke down, and begged me not to send her away; she told me that she would do anything, and that she would go and get help right then and there... but I stood firm, and I sent her away. She still continued to call me every day, and she begged me to take her back, she told me that she would go and get help, and that she would do it my way. Over a couple weeks span, she wore me down, and I told her that we could work on it, and if everything went well, she could move back in with me in two months; as long as she would get help. She agreed, and we had a relatively good conversation on the phone that night. So, I went about my day the next day, and called her around 10pm, like I had promised to the night before. We spoke for a couple of minutes, then she told me all about this plan that she cooked up, where I move over an hour away from my college so that she could keep her recently re-aquired job. I told her that I really don't want to take that route, and I won't be angry with her if that's what she feels she has to do. Her response was that in doing that, she would lose me, and I told her that we all have to make decisions in our life, and we're responsible for each and every one that we make. After I said that, she changed her tone and began to talk about moving back in with me, but she had the audacity to offer me an ultimatum. We were engaged before, and she wants me to marry her before she comes back and moves in with me. I was absolutely blown away by the fact that she would offer me an ultimatum, when her psychological problem tore our relationship apart, and she was the one who called me crying every night, and asking me to take her back. I told her that I was not going to marry her right now, because I wouldn't be comfortable with it, and she told me that I am selfish, and that I never do anything for her, when I had been supporting her due to her disorder for six months before I asked her to leave, and I offered to do so again while she got help. I got really angry, and I asked her very politely to never contact me again. She called me roughly 60 times throughout the rest of the night, and I didn't pick my phone up for any of them. I guess i'm just looking for someone to either tell me that I overreacted, or that I am perfectly right in how I reacted. It's hard to end something that so much work was put into, but I have my own problems to deal with... i'm trying to finish my bachelors degree with high honors, I run a small business in my off time, and i'm trying to deal with some physical health issues. I'm not sure what to do. Link to comment
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