roller Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 My husband's relatives and some of his friends are extremely caring and flattering to him and treat him like a god and to me they are coldly polite. When he is not present, his relatives and two of his female friends become vicious,verbally abusive to me and tell very convincing lies about my husband eg he is going to do this or that "didn't you know?" he has told me everything about that "didn't he tell you?" He's told me he is leaving you, I wanted to tell you because I care about you. My husband refuses to believe these people are so nasty to me, or lie about him, because they are always so wonderful to him. They tell him I am abusive and very nasty to them, I have never been anything but pleasant to them. As far as he is concerned I am a disgusting liar who makes up stories "they couldn't have said those things because they are not true" and I must be very jealous. I am his fourth wife,we have been married for 20 years. His previous wives were split personalities, acting very charming, delightful, kind and caring to some, vengeful,abusive and extremely destructive to others. One was a cheat, two were thieves and all three are very accomplished liars. I learned about them from people, who have known them well. Each marriage lasted no longer than around 6 years. My husbands family consider these women are the daughters inlaw,the sisters inlaw, the stepmothers,the step grandmothers and the aunts, they are always introduced to others by their names and titles, I am never referred to as being part of their family in any way. My husbands family know very little about me other than my christian name, nor have they ever been interested in learning anything else about me. My husband shares children with two of his ex wives, we have a child together whom they have also ignored for the most part. Most people would classify me as easy to get along with, very tolerant of peoples differences, even tempered, not perfect but generally a nice person, reasonably good looking, educated and fun. He is a good husband otherwise. Help what can I do ? Link to comment
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