joeshmoe Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Hi all, I guess this thread is as much for me to get things out as it is for advice... my girlfriend (now ex, I suppose) and I have had a very difficult relationship, with many conflicts, and now it's over...2 yrs. we lasted, sorta. We got together initially because...well, there was definite attraction, but i think even more we were both going thru divorces, and we latched onto one another. She was ready for her divorce, as she had had problems w/ her marriage for years before she left...I however, had been blindsided by my wife, and was not ready for a relationship. I could not commit to her for well over a year, and it was a long distance relationship at that, adding to the difficulty. She tried & tried, and I kept pushing away, up until 8-9 months ago, when i started to realize what a good person she was, and knew that I wanted to be more than just a long distance guy for her...I think basically, I pushed her away for too long, and now she's been doing the same thing, she's cold to me now. She is also very stressed about work, money, etc. (single mom) more than normal right now. I tried to make plans to see her a few times lately, and there's always an excuse, one thing or another...so finally last night I told her not to call me unless she wants to spend time with me, and talk about "us" it's difficult, how do you not want to call someone you've been talking to 3-4 times a day for 2+ yrs.? this sucks, but I do believe everything happens for a reason. Link to comment
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