a_lifters_life Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 Ok my g/f and I been together for 3.5 months. Since the beginning of the relationships I've learned she's a total INTROVERT. She never can tell me what's wrong with things. For example we were supposed to go to her shore house tomrrow and have a BBQ then go to my shore (different shore points). Well, we had it planned I'd be there for the BBQ then we'd leave and go to my shore. All the time I asked her if this was ok since it was her family I didn't want to be 'dragging her away' and if that was ok and she was like "Oh ok that's fine". She texts me back an hour later saying... "you know I haven't seen my family in over a year, Ill just come down on thurs". I dont have any problem with that, but why the **** cant you just tell me that from the get-go it's like I have to 'fish' around until I actually get a fish.... VERY annoying. Link to comment
littlelady Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 i am similar to this and it annoys my partner too and i do understand why but it is as if we are not allowed to think about it or change our minds??whats wrong with that?some people are decisive,some are not,some people say ok but later they think about it and change their minds,is that a crime?!?! Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 22, 2008 Author Share Posted July 22, 2008 i am similar to this and it annoys my partner too and i do understand why but it is as if we are not allowed to think about it or change our minds??whats wrong with that?some people are decisive,some are not,some people say ok but later they think about it and change their minds,is that a crime?!?! Nothing wrong with changing your mind, but it doesnt have to do with indecisiveness with my g/f it has to do with her not feeling confident enough I believe to tell me straight up wth is up. Link to comment
DN Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 There is no problem with anyone changing their mind about something if it only affects them. But to change your mind when it causes inconvenience or disappointment to someone else without good reason or because it wasn't though through properly is very inconsiderate. I would talk to her about this and let her know her behaviour is not acceptable. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 22, 2008 Author Share Posted July 22, 2008 There is no problem with anyone changing their mind about something if it only affects them. But to change your mind when it causes inconvenience or disappointment to someone else without good reason or because it wasn't though through properly is very inconsiderate. I would talk to her about this and let her know her behaviour is not acceptable. Oh I have and just the other night she claimed she was getting "more comfortable" and I said I "hadnt seen any change really" .... Link to comment
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