I have an anxiety when it comes to posting

[ElasticMagnetic]

I don't like to post on here. I mean, I want to reply to some people's topics and create my own, but whenever I start, halfway through I lose my nerve, and delete it all.

 

I kind of have a fear of being one of those people who say the wrong things in the forum. Not mean, but maybe something stupid. Which is kind of weird because I don't have much of a history when it comes to doing that.

 

I have a lot of self doubt. I don't really like myself, and I think that's what creates the anxiety.

 

The reason I'm posting this is because I thought it would help if I posted a topic about the actual posting problem. I guess this is sort of a rant. Right now, I want to just delete this all and forget about it like I usually do. But that wont solve the problem.

 

Am I the only one who feels this? Not just with posting, but in life? Like, you want to do something but you're sort of afraid of being rejected or looking stupid?

[Catdancer]

Well, I'd say that posting and starting your own threads is a good way to start gaining some self confidence and express your opinion. Your words have impact and meaning and your life experiences could help or comfort another. Never be afraid to share what you know or think. You never know who you may help in the process and helping others is a surefire way to help yourself. Take care, Cat

[a_lifters_life]

It's all a lack of self confidence.

[DN]

I just read your posts - they seem fine to me.

[Scorpion Fury]

Just post. Come on, DO IT. Who do you have to impress? A bunch of cool ENA'ers?? Hahahahahaha.

 

That's the cool thing about the internet. You can make up a name on here and post anonymously. No one will know it's you.

 

Your thoughts are your thoughts. You're entitled to have an opinion on here. No one is going to call you stupid. I don't see too many trolls on here, and the ones that do pop up, the mods are pretty good about getting rid of.

 

And even if someone did think you're stupid.... you shouldn't care. You might think they're stupid too. Just don't talk to them or respond to their posts.

 

Now as for real life... do you have Social Anxiety disorder? Do you have a lot of friends you hang out with? Do you avoid large groups of people or going to places where there will be tons of people?

[ElasticMagnetic]

Now as for real life... do you have Social Anxiety disorder? Do you have a lot of friends you hang out with? Do you avoid large groups of people or going to places where there will be tons of people?

 

Actually, I have a general anxiety disorder. It just seems to affect me more socially. I also have manic depression. But I take medication to really reduce the depression.

 

Well, I'm really close with two of my friends. I also have a handful of casual friends too, which I got to know through the two close ones. I don't hang out with the casual ones unless it's been decided to hang out in a group, which is usually 3-6 people. Though sometimes I get lonely when I'm around a lot of my friends because I find myself to be very boring sometimes and not nearly as interesting as my friends Caitlyn and Olga, who are my best friends.

 

It depends on if I know anyone at the place where there is a lot of people. Like, if I have a friend with, preferably one I'm close with, I will go to large events. If I'm by myself, I usually avoid it.

[-Ophelia-]

ENA is a friendly atmosphere and I think that you should not put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I mean when you reply, don't assume that we'll all think that your advice is right. There must be someone out there who won't neccessarily agree with everything you say. So, don't try to please us all, just help out those you can.

 

When I post, I always put in mind there will be a lot of people who might disagree. I also acknowledge that I may even say the wrong things. But, it's not a court of law. Just be yourself and you'll add a great deal to this forum in my opinion.

[DN]

Very often it is good that people disagree - it gives the OP different perspectives and they can choose to follow that which resonates with them the most - or even aspects of different advice that fit together.

 

Also very often, but not always, there is no 'wrong' advice - just different 'right' advice.

[Catdancer]

Just speak your mind and heart.

[Clementine orange]

That's the cool thing about the internet. You can make up a name on here and post anonymously. No one will know it's you.

 

 

Unless you are like me who left myself logged on at work and one of my fellow coworkers figured it out. I was wonder why she was looking at me so weird the last few weeks.

 

Hey S, if you are reading this right now then you got problems too and should be on here. And quit looking at me weird.

 

OP: ENA is totally friendly and remarkably (for the most part) supportive. If there is ever a place you can open up it's here.

[thejigsup]

We've all posted something that, an hour later, we regretted. I speak my mind very freely and it's gotten me in trouble a couple of times. Don't let it get to you. As long as your encouraging posts outnumber your not-so-great ones, you'll be okay. The Mods do a great job here and are very nice when they slap your wrist ;-)

[Jetta]

Despite the colors I use I feel that way sometimes and post anyway, 99% of the time. I figure you never know what might light a spark in them.