TheLonelyPoet Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 I've recently met this girl I used to have some classes with back in high school. She just graduated HS and is on her way onto college in another state. Anyway, we really clicked. And to break it down into simple and not-so-romantic terms: - I find her attractive, and I think she finds me attractive - We are both single - I would like to have a nice (and responsible) short summer romance with her - But nothing that would roll over into a long distance relationship after the summer Thing is, I want to be VERY fair with this girl, and let her know EXACTLY what I am looking for before we get into any sort of activity. That is, I feel it is only fair to let her decide if she would be interested in exactly what I described above. I really like her, she is a great person and also a sensitive one, and I would hate to see her hurt. I don't want this to get too far and then have "the talk" about what we want. I want her to know first. However I have TWO problems: 1. We are both romantic types, and to just say "Listen, we are both adults, so let's have some responsible summer fun with no strings attached" .... yea, to verbalize like that is a total turn-off for me and I'm sure her as well. ON THE OTHER HAND... to just flirt around and mention a romantic date (etc.) is I feel much to ambiguous and I don't want to give her the wrong idea about my intentions. So how do I approach this to be both very fair to her and yet romantic/spontaneous? 2. In HS she was always a rather shy/reserved person. I don't know anything about her sexual life, and I'm wondering how comfortable she would be with such a proposition. Still, I feel it would be unfair to disqualify her just because she isn't the most outgoing girl... right? Yet knowing she is shy, I don't want to put her on the spot or make her feel uncomfortable. Chances are with an outgoing and experienced girl I would just muster up courage and talk to her about my idea in a private setting, pull a few moves etc. However, with her I'd like to be more cautious. That's why I thought a note or a letter would be better, which would giver her time to think it over and react in private and respond without any pressure of me sitting accross the table. But again... this is so not romantic So .... help? Link to comment
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