glitch89 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Hey guys and girls, i’m a new user here so be gentle... This is a long story but think it needs to be told from the beginning. I’m basically having trouble within my current relationship as to whether I should stick with it or not and could do with some opinions. Before this current relationship started (around this time last year), I was feeling pretty darned depressed. About a year before this phase of depression I broke up from my first serious relationship (so about 2 years ago now). I was about to tell a doctor about how I felt, as I felt I was in need of some help. I held off whilst seeing this girl however, and things seem to get better whilst seeing her. I fell pretty quickly for her, she is perfect - beautiful, sexy, loving, caring, and we share common values. I know that she would do anything for me and loves me very much. Recently however (about the last month) I think I have kinda been falling out of love with her. One of the reasons may be that there is a 4 year age difference, with me being the older. In a way I can understand how she feels about me as I’m her first love and you think nothing can break you up, love is forever, etc. etc. This kind of innocence with love was attractive to start with but now its starting to become a little annoying, and is kinda putting pressure on me too. I had these feelings in my previous relationship also, and it caused a couple of breakups for a couple of weeks at a time. When I was in these breakup periods I would realise that I loved them and go back to them, but then around 6 months later I would get the same feelings again. Looking back I wouldn't want to still be with that person but I think my behavior here had big negative impact on the relationship, and I know I caused a lot of pain. As a result I don’t want to break up without thoroughly thinking it through. Anyway, as soon as I had these feelings this time around I went to see a doctor and I am starting to see someone about my possible depression problems. I think this may be the underlying cause of the way I’m feeling. Hopefully this will help in the way I feel towards my current partner. I currently feel as though I have no need for this relationship, although she is pretty much the perfect girl. I couldn't bear to hurt her and think it could possibly turn nasty if we did break up. I don’t even think that I would pursue other girls if we did break up and would possibly stay single for a while. Any help would be appreciated, hopefully someone out there has felt the same. Link to comment
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