skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Hey girls and guys, Hope everyone is well. Sorry i bet you guys are bored of me talking about dates going wrong. Well heres another bad date. Met this guy on facebook a month ago. We went on 3 dates which went well i think. We spoke about anything and everything. about our parents, what we want to do in life etc i was very comfortable around him. We met once a week and kissed on these 3 dates we went on plus he will compliment me i also spoke to him over the phone for an hour before meeting on our 2nd date. I saw him a little under two weeks ago - i texted him a few days after meeting saying hey, how are you? he replied i'm good thanks - how are you? So i replied yeah i'm doing well thanks. We should meet up for a meal sometime x since then i haven't heard from him. Not sure if he wants to see me again. As i was the last person to text - would it be a good idea to email him on facebook? as i deleted his number. x Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I'd say leave it. The ball is in his court. It doesn't sound like he wants to go out again, though. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I wouldn't contact him. You were the last to initiate, and he hasn't responded. Unfortunately, he sounds like he's not interested. PLEASE don't take this personally. This JUST happened to me. Why they just don't TELL us is a mystery to me. I guess it's just easier to blow us off, huh? My best... ~Allie Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 I wouldn't contact him. You were the last to initiate, and he hasn't responded. Unfortunately, he sounds like he's not interested. PLEASE don't take this personally. This JUST happened to me. Why they just don't TELL us is a mystery to me. I guess it's just easier to blow us off, huh? My best... ~Allie I thought he was into me though he even told me i reminded him of his long term ex a few years back. I was willing to defo give this guy a chance. I even said i'm sick and tired of players on the 1st date and he still does the same thing as other guys do mess around without saying the truth. Sorry this has happened to you. I hope your not too upset x Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 also he texted me to see if i got home okay after our 3rd date- why bother! Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 also he texted me to see if i got home okay after our first date- why bother! I can't figure men out. You can go for it...it's not gonna hurt! I was just offering my opinion based on him not contacting you. But, what the heck, if you wanna go for it, go girlie!!!! Link to comment
S agapo Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 If he was interested he would of replied back to you! Unless he is playing hard to get game! Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Why they just don't TELL us is a mystery to me. I guess it's just easier to blow us off, huh? I've heard many people say that they feel it would be presumptuous of them to tell someone they are not interested in them after only a few dates. I don't agree with that personally, but it could explain why many people simply stop communication when they lose interest. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 If he was interested he would of replied back to you! Unless he is playing hard to get game! Nah i don't think he wants to see me anymore - what can i do? nothing much - thats why i was thinking maybe i should e-mail him but thinking about it now it's a silly idea - why beg for someone to like me by trying and trying and trying. he's loss i suppose - bloody idiot Link to comment
amipushy Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Nah i don't think he wants to see me anymore - what can i do? nothing much - thats why i was thinking maybe i should e-mail him but thinking about it now it's a silly idea - why beg for someone to like me by trying and trying and trying. he's loss i suppose - bloody idiot SKy you're gorgeous, don't contact him at all, if he's got any sense he'll be back. Link to comment
S agapo Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Nah i don't think he wants to see me anymore - what can i do? nothing much - thats why i was thinking maybe i should e-mail him but thinking about it now it's a silly idea - why beg for someone to like me by trying and trying and trying. he's loss i suppose - bloody idiot exactly.. why beg for someone who cannot see right Dunno what people (men) what these days! Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 It was only three dates. You've known pairs of socks far longer. He said some nice things but you didn't know him long enough to know whether over time his actions would be consistent with his words. Often on an early date when people are nervous or excited they say things they feel at the moment, then the next day they feel differently, or meet someone else they like better. He's not an idiot - he's entitled to change his mind early on and after only three dates while it would be nice if he called, he's not obligated to - it's only three dates. I wouldn't take it personally - and I wouldn't count this as some sort of failure on either of your parts. People often discover they don't click after a few dates. No big deal. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 SKy you're gorgeous, don't contact him at all, if he's got any sense he'll be back. Hope so Thank you x Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 It was only three dates. You've known pairs of socks far longer. He said some nice things but you didn't know him long enough to know whether over time his actions would be consistent with his words. Often on an early date when people are nervous or excited they say things they feel at the moment, then the next day they feel differently, or meet someone else they like better. He's not an idiot - he's entitled to change his mind early on and after only three dates while it would be nice if he called, he's not obligated to - it's only three dates. I wouldn't take it personally - and I wouldn't count this as some sort of failure on either of your parts. People often discover they don't click after a few dates. No big deal. Time to move on then - thank you Batya33 x Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Skyblue, I just wanted to make clear, despite my best intentions there were those guys who in 2 or 3 dates REALLY got under my skin and then never called. I was left baffled, too. My advice was the advice I took myself to try to get some perspective, but I can totally relate to your disappointment and frustration. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 Skyblue, I just wanted to make clear, despite my best intentions there were those guys who in 2 or 3 dates REALLY got under my skin and then never called. I was left baffled, too. My advice was the advice I took myself to try to get some perspective, but I can totally relate to your disappointment and frustration. I know your trying to give me the best advice Batya i'm just always when it ends like this. Guess we need to face the facts and live with it hate men wasting my point - Why am i always going for the wrong guys? Link to comment
civilservant Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 sky, he's clearly not the right guy' if he can do this to you. Best to have found out now rather than 3 months down the line.. On a completley inappropriate note, it he dosent wanna take you out on another date I will Sorry Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 hi sky - i totally commiserate. we're about the same age, and i've definitely had more than my fair share of frustrating dating experiences. you get sick of it sometimes, you know? as for this guy, i'd leave it. we don't know what happened. he could have gotten back with his ex, or met someone he was more into, etc.... hard to tell. is there anything you could have said on the date that turned him off? like if you said you wanted 8 children and he didn't want any, or something like that? in any case, ball's in his court. don't stress. not everyone is a love match. hugs Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 I know your trying to give me the best advice Batya i'm just always when it ends like this. Guess we need to face the facts and live with it hate men wasting my point - Why am i always going for the wrong guys? You didn't go for the wrong guy. it's normal early on for one or both people to decide they don't really click after all - that's called "dating." - we're not mindreaders so we can't predict in advance who we'll click with. Link to comment
cpujunkie Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 You will be fine. As many have said after a couple of dates he should be contacting you. If you really hit it off, I know I would be. Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 sky, he's clearly not the right guy' if he can do this to you. Best to have found out now rather than 3 months down the line.. On a completley inappropriate note, it he dosent wanna take you out on another date I will Sorry awww thanks for that i guess so but i thought he was into me guess i was wrong Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Did you send the email sky or no? Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 hi sky - i totally commiserate. we're about the same age, and i've definitely had more than my fair share of frustrating dating experiences. you get sick of it sometimes, you know? as for this guy, i'd leave it. we don't know what happened. he could have gotten back with his ex, or met someone he was more into, etc.... hard to tell. is there anything you could have said on the date that turned him off? like if you said you wanted 8 children and he didn't want any, or something like that? in any case, ball's in his court. don't stress. not everyone is a love match. hugs No i didn't mention children or anything like that. We spoke about lots of things - don't understand where it went wrong Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 Did you send the email sky or no? Noo i didn't in the end- i don't think it's wise to thinking about it now. He doesn't want to know me anymore Link to comment
emmie_g Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 maybe hes lost your number? broke his phone? Link to comment
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