should I meet him?

[Nihowma]

What kind of a guy will sign on an on-line dating web site? I signed on “personals” two weeks ago; I did not really want to find someone special on-line (I do not believe it anyway!) but just wanting to know what kinds of guys look like if they are my age. I random choose some guys and sending them emails. Then, here comes an email from this guy. I was surprised to know that he has more quality than I thought; he is a well-known scholar. I did some background check on him; it is all matched what he wrote to me.

We have been exchanged emails every night for two weeks, now, he is asking to meet me, but I do not feel wanting to meet him. The reason is he is too famous and our background/degree/major is far too different. From his emails, he seems an interesting and sincere person, but I can see there are problems in the future. I wondered a guy like him should not have any problems to date; it is just too awkward to me.

[Clementine orange]

 

Reason number #112 why I don't do on-line dating anymore. We are people out there not menu items!

 

Different backgrounds and education can keep things interesting....I don't date women with the same career as mine - I don't want to talk "shop" on a date!

[redhearts]

Do a group thing or something, or double up, or of course meet in public. If ya don't wish you tell him your intentions are to not go beyond e-mail.

[Nihowma]

I personal think on-line dating is pretty neat because we can meet friends by sharing our thought and interest if we are serious and not plan to cheat. I told them in front that I am not looking for a serious relationship and told them the reason why I sign on . I do not think when some one email you first means you are something on the menu, it is all depends on what do you want from someone whom you do not even know? (I would never expect anything good will happen.)I am confused about this on-line dating since this is my first time to sign on, but this is the way I look at: it is just another way to meet new friends, but we should not expect someone whom we do not even know should bring us happeniess or what we want; I also respect them even I do not know them at all. Of course, be honest is number 1 rule because we are all human, no one wants to be cheated and I also need to protect my privacy, I would not give out my personal information and details before I feel totally comfotable with.

[Nihowma]

Thanks for the reply. One thing I do not feel comfortable is why people want to go on-line to meet people when they know they can meet the same quality people from their field.

[Clementine orange]

It's easier for busy people to meet others on line - there are lots of reasons. At least with on line dating, you know you are meeting single, available people (presumably) so you don't "waste" time chatting up those who aren't interested. That's the theory anyway.

 

Regardless, I'm not really a fan of it. For a number of reasons.

[Nihowma]

I know how you feel. I only stay there for two weeks, then, I decided to cancel it because the photos posted by the most of people, they do not match their age. I can see some of them just let go of themselves. It was also really upset me that most of the people would ask to exchange the photos when they do not look good at all!

[cpujunkie]

If you do go somewhere, just make it a safe place and with others you know.

[civilservant]

I have to agree, I'm not really a fan of online dating either. A huge part of dating is seeing if you have that spark, and meeting people online and perhaps IMing for awhile can really negate that.

 

The last person I met online I IMed for a week (nearly every night) before we met. That was such a mistake, because when we did meet we had nothing to talk about!