c0nfus3d Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. When we started dating, he was cuddly and the best guy I could ask for. But for the past 7 months or so, he's decided that he no longer likes touching, which includes kissing, and the things he says make me cry almost every day. When I ask him for a kiss, he says he doesn't want to. It's not my breath. We had our 1 year anniversary yesterday, and we had each agreed to spend $20 on eachother, but he spent the rest of his money on a video game so he couldn't get me anything and he didn't make me anything. I didn't tell him I was upset because I figured it would be obvious but I don't know if he knows.. and he didn't even tell me he loved me yesterday. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 wow, break up with him. This has been going on for 7 months? Link to comment
lady00 Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Hmm...either he's not into you or something serious is going on with him that made him lose his drive. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 Yeah, 7 months.. We DO have a good time most of the time.. I mean, until I want to act like we're dating. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Would you want to spend another year with someone that would rather buy a video game than even buy you a little something? He could have at least picked a flower out of someone's garden. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 19, 2008 Author Share Posted July 19, 2008 I would have loved a flower from someone's garden. I would have loved a homemade card. He didn't take the time to do a damn thing for me after I invited him to my house, made him dinner, and set up a romantic stargazing date. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 To be honest, if seven out of twelve months he'd rather act like your friend, be his friend, not his girlfriend. Find someone who makes the effort FOR YOU. Not the other way round. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 I think the thing I wish I could get through my head is.. I can't change who he is no matter what I say, and I don't like who he is sometimes, and just because we're good people and we get along doesn't mean we're meant to be together anymore. It's just so hard to leave someone you're comfortable with.. someone you've been through so much with.. I don't know if I can do it! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I think the thing I wish I could get through my head is.. I can't change who he is no matter what I say, and I don't like who he is sometimes, and just because we're good people and we get along doesn't mean we're meant to be together anymore. It's just so hard to leave someone you're comfortable with.. someone you've been through so much with.. I don't know if I can do it! It's called settling. Don't ever ever ever settle. Especially at our age. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 It's called settling. Don't ever ever ever settle. Especially at our age. I do love him though I don't know how to not love him Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I do love him though I don't know how to not love him Well, there are three points to a successful triangle that is a relationship. -Friendship -Love -Passion Seems like you love him but he doesn't really show that he loves you. There is no passion. And as far as friends....he didn't get you a present, that should probably say a lot. If you don't wanna leave him, at least stand up for yourself. He is very much not appreciating you but if you told him outright all the things that are wrong and went on break, he may come around in a very big way. If he doesn't change in a big way, you better dump that fool on his bum and find someone willing to dote on you. Cause, trust me, there is a guy out there that given the opportunity will be completely smitten over you. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 20, 2008 Author Share Posted July 20, 2008 Well, there are three points to a successful triangle that is a relationship. -Friendship -Love -Passion Seems like you love him but he doesn't really show that he loves you. There is no passion. And as far as friends....he didn't get you a present, that should probably say a lot. If you don't wanna leave him, at least stand up for yourself. He is very much not appreciating you but if you told him outright all the things that are wrong and went on break, he may come around in a very big way. If he doesn't change in a big way, you better dump that fool on his bum and find someone willing to dote on you. Cause, trust me, there is a guy out there that given the opportunity will be completely smitten over you. Thanks. I'll try the sticking up for myself thing. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 I do love him though I don't know how to not love him no one said you have to stop loving him..... you just need to find someone to love that is going to love you in return. Link to comment
Blue Streak Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Soulds like a good friend that you need to be strait with. Move on. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 yeah, sounds like a jerk. what are you getting out of this relationship?!? Link to comment
cpujunkie Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 This does not sound good. Do what you think is best after much thought. Link to comment
c0nfus3d Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 I'm not getting anything out of the relationship... now that I think about it. I do everything for him and he does something for me maybe once a month, if I'm lucky. I've always been one to give give give no matter what and it's those days when he does act like a good boyfriend that convince me it's all okay.. Link to comment
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