mholstrom Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Hi Everyone, My boyfriend of 5 years has been hurting me so bad lately- physically, verbally, and mentally. I have to admit, I've done some pretty stupid things, and he's had to put up with a lot of my crap, but I'm not sure if any of it justifies the way he's been treating me. He's always had a temper, but when he's "himself" he's SO nice, kind, and respectful. He loves that I spend time with my family, he encourages that I go out with my friends, he sees a therapist 2 times a week, and acknowledges his faults. I'm SO confused because he'll act so healthy one minute, then the next minute, when I'm not telling him the truth he wants to hear, it gets bad. 2 weeks ago, he saw an email from a from a friend, thought it was a guy I was sleeping with or something ( I wasn't) and he told me I had to tell him who the email was from, or else. I told him it was private between me and a female friend of mine (long story) but he didn't believe me and wanted to see the email. I said im not hiding anything, it's just private. He got SO mad he slammed my laptop into the wall twice, shattered and broke it, then threw me down twice. After we made up, he said he hates who he is when that happens. Then, when we got home from vacation, he threw me down again at his house, because I did something to piss him off. He's been calling me a five year old, immature, bored, and all kinds of things. I've done my share of things, but im trying SO hard to be nice, to make up, and to put the past behind us. It seems all he's been doing is getting more and more annoyed and pissed off at me. We're doing a long distance right now, and we'd made a pact before I left 2 weeks ago that we'd move forward and be positive to each other. So far, everything I do makes him mad. I'm the one who calls, emails, and makes the effort, yet i still piss him off. I love him, he's my first boyfriend, and I"m so confused. I must sound so silly, but i'm so attached to him. by the way, i'm 25, and he's 36.. Can he change with therapy, and if we both make an effort, or will I be wasting my time trying with someone who will always be this way? As I said, i've done my share of things, but I'm TRULY trying so hard right now, and all he's been doing is disrespecting me back. Link to comment
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