emailas Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Hi all, I have posted here several times about the difficult relationship I have with my mother. With the support of this website, my new husband and some counselling, I have made huge progress. I went to counselling for several issues- mainly due to my depression and inability to make major life choices...or any choice for that matter. It transpired during my sessions, from my behaviour (I was always working to "fix" it) and that of my mothers, that my mother has Narcissitic Personality Disoder, or narcissitic traits, at the very least. I have read loads on it and worked through the management of these personalities and myself- and I am coming to terms with it. My life is so much better for it. I am less depressed about the why and how things work in my family. I no longer have counselling. It's explained a lot of the loneliness, nervousnes and depressive episodes I had growing up. I am now happy most times. I am ar a stage now where I can accept that we will never have a mother-daughter relationship (unless I am the mother). I can recognise how my life choices have challenged her beliefs and threatend her sense of "self" which has made her behaviour escalate. The only thing I struggle with now is that from time to time, I get a surge of anger and resentment at the injustice, her lies and hurt of my mothers past behaviour, and my own guilt. I am struggling to forgive her for her behaviour in the past and I know that this is holding me back. I was wondering if anyone in a similiar situation could offer some advice on how to accept and forgive her? Link to comment
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