daniel4peace Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for about 13 months and I must say she makes me feel absolutely amazing. But in these past couple of weeks we've been arguing more and more. I pay for almost everything and I feel as though I don't get appreciated as much as I should. I'm the only one that drives because she's saving for other things and I don't get any gas money from her. I know that the things she is saving for are important but does that mean I have to pay for everything?? Shouldn't she share the expenses as well? I feel as though there are many things I would do for her yet she would not do in return. Ex: About a week ago I was feeling awful and I had stayed home from work and I asked her if she would call at a certain time and sit down and have a conversation during one of our favorite shows. She said "no I have already made other plans" But about two weeks before that I had a speech due one day and she told me that she wasn't feeling well the night before and I went to her house to try and make her feel better while she had known that I had to prepare for my speech the next day and I ended up losing about 4 hours of prep time. I know it sounds foolish but is it too much to ask? Lately she told me that we both needed time and space for ourselves and that we just needed to focus on other things other than just eachother. I agreed. She told me during a conversation that I was smothering her and that she to breathe but, she has also chose to spend that time with me. Is that completely my fault? Should I be blamed for something she knew about and was well aware of? During the summer we've seen eachother almost everyday and I can understand where she would get "smothering". But can she blame all that on me? One day we were having a conversation with a good friend of ours and she referred to me as her pet. Since then I haven't been able to get that off my mind. I always seem to be the one to "fix" things after an argument or start up conversation after we have hung up on eachother. and I'm really quite tired of it. Don't get me wrong this girl is amazing!! She's absolutely the most beautiful person I know and I have to say that she is my first love and the first person I was ever intimate with. It may sound corny but we were also eachothers first kiss. We've shared countless memories with eachother and I can honestly say that I wouldn't mind spending my life with her. I plan on buying her a promise ring for her birthday and telling her that I would really like to se how far we can go in this relationship. It's just these few minor things we need to fix first. But How?? Am i doing to much? or am I just selfish? Link to comment
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