prettyhate Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 BUT i saw him last night.... i did not cry i got a bit panicky but i stood my ground his mututal friends said i looked great and hot i saw them prior to him arriving kept its busines like just abit of general chit chat.. i walked past a bit he would ahave seen me but now i feel immature like i should have said hello but then i was like well * * * * u you broke up with me.. i surprised myself at how ok i was. I saw him last night he never caught my eye until I got into a cab and he looked away quickly… Its kinda sad in a way his body language was not great he looked cold and never asw him smile He avoided me Id idnt approach him I had a friend stay over I didn’t cry I was strong his friend said I looked good he arrived with a different mate… I hope it cut him into pieces. I am sad now I had no sleep and just feel rotten was he deliberately ignoring me or guilt and afraid but surely he shouldn’t feel that he broke up with me Anyway I dunno at the party if I should speak to him and be civil which is tomorrow? i feel like i am so immature and childish that we cant just acknowledge each other Its so stupid do we carry on like ghosts to each other L I don’t want to talk to anyone about it really I was fine I held my own I got a bit panicky and shakey then I was filled with disgust.. I dunno…the lead singer of the band tuned me this guy i was looking forawrd to reconnecting with didn’t show up and another guy who was down was kinda weird and I was awkward (a mutual friend) gave me a hug and I wanted to cry but didn’t Link to comment
ghostgirl116 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 there is no reason if at the party the two of you catch each others' eye that you shouldn't smile, and then go about your business. its not immature at all, in my opinion, if you don't feel comfortable with doing that, or any other form of contact. you need to do what feels right for you. i just wouldn't engage in a conversation, though. if he approaches you, you can smile, say "its good to see you" (you don't really have to mean it ) and excuse yourself to the bathroom. cry then if you feel like it, fix your mascara, and go back out and mingle! good luck! i'm pulling for you! xo gg Link to comment
prettyhate Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 its just i am not sure of protocol he broke up with me cheated on me and then he looked uncomfortable but should i be civil or does that come accross as desperate still in love with him? its like he didnt have the guts or nerve to speak but then again hell he may not have wanted to i know it doesnt matter but yeah its bothering me today Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 You have to think about yourself. He cheated on you and broke up with you. It's HIS loss. Carry on with your life, you don't need someone like this in your life..especially dragging it on and on and playing these silly lil games with you. Be yourself at the party and do what you would normally do. How long have you been broken up for? How long did you go out? Link to comment
prettyhate Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 we were together 2.5 years the aprty date is our anniversary date. its been 2 months and a week... since we were broken up i feel strangely empowered at the moment i just dont know what to do and i dont really care at the moment im exhausted i dont really think he deserves my time Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Then you answered your own problem. He messed up. Its been a few months and even if you still love him, there's a 50 50 chance that he hasn't changed. If you think he doesn't deserve your time, than don't give it. At this point, you have to think about yourself and what you went through to get through the emotions that got you to this point of 2 months later. You don't want to go through all that again do you? Link to comment
prettyhate Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 i guess i will see how it goes i mean if its RUDE not to ill say hi and thats it like if he approaches (which i doubt he looked like a scared dog) but i dont get it he was so mean about it and now its like his language was regretful or maybe thats me wanting it tobe it could have been " yuk go away leave me alone oh no she is here and i dont want to have to talk to her" i really dont know. he could say something i dont want to hear but i just thought it was more mature i dunno Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Cheaters tend to feel guilty after time has passed. He also could be realizing what he messed up cuz ppl tend to not know what they have until they lose it. Ya know? it never hurts to say hi, it's the mature thing to do...but make sure you stay strong on your feet and mind or else he will sneak his lil cheating self back into your life and before you know it, you will be back to square one. Link to comment
prettyhate Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 guess i just have to see how the night goes i mean i will look fun and confident and its his loss living my life should bother him.. i mean if its unavoidable ill say hi but i think maybe its best to ignore him i duno NO contact? Link to comment
reirei Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Hey, you did the right thing. You did what felt natural and what you had to do and I'm proud of you for that! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 Look at my thread How to react if you run into the ex??? Link to comment
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