nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 So long story short for those who haven't followed my story. Ex broke up with me in january (reasoning said he got scared) we both moved on to different relationships around april both ended in may/june I have since realized that i have never moved on from him like i thought i had its been 6/7 months since the break up and we are now friends we hang out have a good time and have our old conversations back. I'd like to let him know how i feel still...but at the same time feel it might make him run for the hills again. Just like in the letter i explain his friendship is more important than anything else but think its only fair that i tell him how i really feel so i just wrote a letter to jer because i really don't think I'd have the balls to tell him in person...except I'd be there when he read it i don't know when i plan on giving it too him but it will be a while just want u to tell me if its dumb, too much, honest, etc. of course i'm going to tweak the letter a bit fix grammer spelling etc. Guess what today is/was? yep would have been together for a year today. I'd like to thank you for everything you have ever done for me. I do really appreciate you being there for me when I didn't or couldn't count on anyone else, or want to be around anyone. I really never expected you to be the one to come to my rescue when everything started to fall apart, losing my job Cody etc. I think it is time for me to be honest with you. 1st and foremost our friendship is the most important thing to me and if nothing else I'm happy that you are still in my life. when we went floating you said that it isn't fair that the guy has to put his feelings out there and make the first move hoping to not get rejected. So here it goes just putting my feelings out there, its not fair if I don't tell you how I really feel about you. I still care about you not a day goes by that I don't think about you. Even when i was with Cody i would get excited every time you would text me. I thought I had moved on but thinking about things now...Cody was a rebound and a failed one at that. When you text me right before you left to go to the lake with your family apologizing and saying sorry for not being the same guy. I knew I still had feelings for you just wasn't exactly sure what kind. Then you called that night and we stayed up practically all night just talking and catching up. I really didn't want to hang up it felt good to talk to you again.When you showed up at my house after Cody broke up with me you walked up behind me and hugged me and that felt really good to be back in your arms again even if it was only a friendly hug. I remembered why I feel for you in the first place. Now for our trip/ride to Stanley when we got to lowman i remembered our little drives trips to the hot springs and when we drove up to challis that one day just to get out of the city and be alone. I could help but start crying when you asked what was wrong. I told myself i wouldn't miss you but its like everything has come back to me if there is one memory I don't ever want to lose it would be that time at the hot springs, it was raining just you and me and it was perfect. you said that your not emotionally attached and i can understand that I'm hoping it is something that could develop. I'd like to start over start fresh take things slow and see what could happen if you could open your heart and let me in again. i really think we could have something good. why not try a clean start I've worked alot on what you didn't like before and have realized what really is important. Like i said at first your friendship is the most important if you dont' feel the same I understand was just taking a chance and hoping for one back. I don't know when or if I'll give this to you but take care....Biscuit Nik Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Is he still with his girlfriend? Link to comment
Karmageddon Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Oh scary. It's tough to throw yourself out there and be vulnerable. If you are willing to take the chance even though the out come may be negative, what else can you do? What do you honestly think his response would be though? Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 No he is not with the girl anymore I honestly don't know what his responce will be....I was waiting before I gave it to him to make sure he isn't still stuck on the girl. I know he cares about me or he wouldn't talk about me or wouldn't ask how I'm doing. Or like in the letter when I was talking about our ride to lowman...he could tell i was "off" and asked what was wrong...he can just pick up on that stuff with me Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 It's a very honest and lovely letter, BUT if this guy left the relationship because he was scared (commitment phobia) then this letter will as you say, "Make him run for the hills." Why even mention your rebound relationship? I know you said it would be tough, but I think telling him this stuff in person could be more effective than a letter, especially if he's reading it right in front of you (too much pressure). Maybe the short and sweet approach would work better with him? Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 short sweet approach is??? he knows about cody so there is no reason to hide it from him I like you Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 No, I'm not saying to hide anything from him; I just don't think it adds anything to your reasons for wanting him back. Short and sweet approach would be doing something fun that you both enjoy -- going for coffee, Frisbee in the park, ice cream at the beach, anything fun -- and bringing up the fact that you still have feelings for him, that they never went away and that you would really like to give "us" another shot. Of course, he might need more information, but I think you'll get more of a response out of him with this approach than forcing him to respond to a long and very personal letter. And remember, this is just my opinion. Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 i understand where your coming from with leaving the other guy out of it since it had/has nothign to do with us Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Good. The trick is to be open and honest without overwhelming him. Simple on paper – hard in practice. Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 i think if i tried talking to him about it i'd just start crying in comes the "overwhelming part" Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Yea, it might be emotional -- you love him -- but your words would be genuine and real -- not just letters on a page. But you don’t have to make the conversation sad – what about waiting for a moment when you’re both hysterically laughing? Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 i could always talk to him in person or at least try then have the letter as back up Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 i could always talk to him in person or at least try then have the letter as back up Good plan. Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 really wish i could tell him now...but i dont want to jump the gun ya know? Link to comment
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