george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Need some advice to point me one way or the other. I have a local bar which I love. I will go there with friends or by myself once or twice a week. There are 3 main bartenders there. One of them I tried to start something with but something wasn't there. I don't feel awkward around her now but I can tell she seems a little funny when I go. Now one of the other bartenders has been flirting with me. I know if I ask her out she will say yes but I don't want to ruin this bar for me. What are your thoughts. Should I ask her or not. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I try to stay away from bartenders especially if I'm a regular there. However if you find her attractive and think she likes you by all means go for it. I'd take love over my favorite bar any day. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 I try to stay away from bartenders especially if I'm a regular there. However if you find her attractive and think she likes you by all means go for it. I'd take love over my favorite bar any day. Not really looking for love just a fun person. She is definatley attractive and also a smartass which is a huge turn on. However, I alread went on a date with one of them and I don't want it to get to ugly in there. Link to comment
LanceVanceDance Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I think you pretty much answered your own question... If you can accept no longer being able to go there, then do what you feel like and ask her out. See what happens. If, however, you absolutely want to be able to keep going there, then don't risk it and forget about her. Link to comment
ycmanvs Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I think you should try to get to know her first and decide if she is worth the trouble of dating someone who works at your local hang out. If you two are extremely well suited for eachother, then ask her out, but if she is just a fling, then you should probably skip it. Things can get pretty awkward if you two do not end up together and you still go there. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Whatev the first one didn't work out and now shes weird around you so I doubt she cares. Why not go out with the new one with no expectations, things don't always end awkwardly. Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I agree with ycmanvs. Keep flirting and try to get to know her a little better before pulling the trigger and asking her out. There are many, many girls out there, but only a few decent watering holes. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Why are you attracted to all the bartenders? It almost sounds like any female bartender will do...if one rejects you then on to the next. Are you going to run through all the bartenders in the pub? You will end up getting quite the reputation...watch out for George...he seems to have a thing for bartenders...any one will do. If you are just looking for fun and frolic I am sure there are lots of women who would fit the bill who are not bartenders. Going after the bartender is about as cliched as guests at Club Med going after the young staff. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 Why are you attracted to all the bartenders? It almost sounds like any female bartender will do...if one rejects you then on to the next. Are you going to run through all the bartenders in the pub? You will end up getting quite the reputation...watch out for George...he seems to have a thing for bartenders...any one will do. If you are just looking for fun and frolic I am sure there are lots of women who would fit the bill who are not bartenders. Going after the bartender is about as cliched as guests at Club Med going after the young staff. It's not that I have pulled a lot of numbers from that bar, so it's not just the bartenders. I only have to question myself when it comes to people I will have to see on a daily or weekly basis (work, hang out). And there is something different about her that attracts me, not sure what it is yet. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 why not ask her to meet up for lunch or coffee one day? doesn't have to be a date. you can see her out of the element you always see her in. maybe she isn't that cool. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 why not ask her to meet up for lunch or coffee one day? doesn't have to be a date. you can see her out of the element you always see her in. maybe she isn't that cool. That's a thought. Link to comment
Zepp Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Huh? What's with the thread title? Link to comment
george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 Huh? What's with the thread title? You never heard that term before? You don't date people that you have to see everyday (like your work, or in my case favorite bar) My favorite for work is "don't dip your pen in the company ink" Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 don't fuel the fire if it's already lit. stuff like that. same sayings. meaning, don't cause drama in your fun places as george is saying. you are ruining yourself so to speak. Link to comment
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