Caterina Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 This often happens to me: I notice a guy and I'm shy so I look down. When I look up to look at him, he looks away but I know he was looking at me. What should I do? What if I'm attracted to him? What if he's heading somewhere and I'm wrong? The only time I've EVER gotten dates with guys is when we share an interest, like at a club or in a classroom...I've NEVER gone out with a guy through a random meeting...its always through seeing each other a few times before he asks. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Make eye contact with them initialy. They probably don't think your interested and get freaked out when you look at them. If you see a cute guy stare at him and smile. Link to comment
Caterina Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 Make eye contact with them initialy. They probably don't think your interested and get freaked out when you look at them. If you see a cute guy stare at him and smile. I do that but then they just look away and nothing happens. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Well...most guys know that asking out complete strangers usually doesn't work - so they don't try. Girls are usually suspicious of men who walk up to them out of the blue and start working them. The ones that do ask out complete strangers are ones with either confidence abounding, a very thick skin, and/or a bit "nutty". There are exceptions of course, like me for example... Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I do that but then they just look away and nothing happens. I think you don't realize how tough it is to be a guy and doing the asking. I tell you, it can be brutal out there and sometimes women can be mean. Link to comment
Caterina Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 I think you don't realize how tough it is to be a guy and doing the asking. I tell you, it can be brutal out there and sometimes women can be mean. I know it is. I also know that there have been times when I haven't given a guy my number b/c I was afraid he'd reject me. I've thought men were attracted to me, but when I gave them my number, they never called. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 make more eye contact and hold it. make it apparent you are checking him out. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I know it is. I also know that there have been times when I haven't given a guy my number b/c I was afraid he'd reject me. I've thought men were attracted to me, but when I gave them my number, they never called. It's because we are human. Sometimes I can't believe the huge divide between the sexes. This is why ENA is such a great site, we are discussing things openly and learning about how the other gender thinks. I've gotten phone numbers and not called. Why? When I got the number I was all in a good mood and feeling confident etc but then when it comes around to calling, for whatever reason I've lost the confidence and then too much time goes by and I figure she's forgotten. Or I've met someone else that I see in person more often so it's easier. Don't forget, every guy has had their share of the "fake" number given to us by some woman. Or the rejection over the phone (since it's easier than in person) Or the girl who plays games...the list goes on. Honestly, try to see it from our side - imagine yourself as a guy doing this. You girls sure expect alot out of us!!!! Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Agree with the above. Also say hi or something to let them know you are interested. Don't be afraid.. What's the worst that could happen if you try to small talk or start a conversation? Link to comment
madmarten Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Well...most guys know that asking out complete strangers usually doesn't work - so they don't try. Girls are usually suspicious of men who walk up to them out of the blue and start working them. The ones that do ask out complete strangers are ones with either confidence abounding, a very thick skin, and/or a bit "nutty". There are exceptions of course, like me for example... Not an exception Bro Link to comment
kaoticbaby Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 this is when you have to start making "small talk." go up to him and ask if he knows the time, comment on something he's holding or wearing, the weather (regardless of how cliche it is), anything. Link to comment
Wolf_22 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I know it is. I also know that there have been times when I haven't given a guy my number b/c I was afraid he'd reject me. I've thought men were attracted to me, but when I gave them my number, they never called. Finding a person to date is like finding a good job - it's full of trials and tribulations. I would advise you to do this: walk up to the guy and kiss him. That will get you a free ticket to The Dark Knight, guaranteed. Link to comment
SupaflyTNT Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 This often happens to me: I notice a guy and I'm shy so I look down. When I look up to look at him, he looks away but I know he was looking at me. What should I do? What if I'm attracted to him? What if he's heading somewhere and I'm wrong? The only time I've EVER gotten dates with guys is when we share an interest, like at a club or in a classroom...I've NEVER gone out with a guy through a random meeting...its always through seeing each other a few times before he asks. There is your problem. Try a smile when he looks, or maybe a little wave. Who really cares if he doesn't come over and talk to you? All you did was smile or wave at him, but I'll tell you right now, that's the clearest signal you can give a guy. I've had women do this to me and if I'm attracted I have no problem going up to them after seeing it. Link to comment
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