Trouble in the Bed

[VtecQueen]

During sexual intercourse I can never seem to reach that "ultimate climax" with my boyfriend. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I think I focus on other things instead of him and what he's doing. I don't really know WHAT to think exactly. I never really climax during penetration but more so during oral, which is fine I understand some girls are like that. But even during oral my mind starts to drift off and it takes a while for me to climax. I don't really know what I'm doing wrong. My boyfriend is getting upset cause he "can't make me climax". I don't really know what to do, or what I'm doing wrong. Any advice??

[annie24]

don't worry about reaching climax. it's like falling asleep. if you are sitting there, gritting your teeth saying, 'must sleep, must sleep, must sleep,' it will never happen. don't get stressed out. just go with the flow, enjoy, mess around, it will happen in its own time. tell your bf not to get stressed out either. it's a journey, not a destination.

[sti_2004]

hey you really did post the exact same thing as that other girl....

[ghost69]

focus on the action at hand. practice on your own when your bf isn't around. become more in tune with yourself.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

More than 50% of women don't ever climax during sexual intercourse. They need more stimulation than it can provide, or more foreplay beforehand.

 

Try introducing vibrators to your sexual actvity with your partner. Very few women can't climax with a vibrator. Have him use it on you, or use it on yourself using varied positions with him.

 

He also needs to understand this is a common problem, and he shouldn't get uptight about it.

[Gunmetal]

you're not doing anything 'wrong', but i agree with ghost that you may want to experiment more by yourself. Also, try being on top and grinding your clit on him, or while you're on the bottom you could pull him in deep and do it that way.