firefox82 Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 I have been single for 4 years and am 25 years old. I know I shouldn't be complaining life could be much worse.... My friends are getting married and starting to have kids and I am still single. I met this amazing guy, we have so much in common and communicate well....or so I thought. We used to chat everyday at least 5 times, but as of a couple of weeks ago - nothing. I am having a really hard time getting over this dude, and i don't know what to do. People always say to me "how is it that you're single, you're such a great catch"...seriously why am i single? I feel like I will be single forever... I am in a rut...help please.... Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Did you meet this person in real life or online? Link to comment
Iris-PJ Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Don't worry I am in the same boat! I was also talking to this cool and interesting guy, but now ... he doesn't call. So it's time to move on! I rather be single then strung along by some guy that isn't "sure" if he wants to be with someone. And it doesn't help that close friends are in serious relationships. I am here in solidarity! I try not to worry too much about finding a guy, I have way too much on my plate as it is and I have so much I want to accomplish still. take care, -PJ Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 What happened that you guys stopped chatting? Link to comment
firefox82 Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 i am not sure...last time we were together i said "i think we'd be cute together" and then we fell asleep and then he brought it back up in the morning...but i darted the questions because i was so scared of rejection...then i sent him an email VERY CASUAL saying "i like you" and he wrote back, "i can't respond to that right now"....seriously if he wasnt into me why would be bring up the "i think we'd be cute together" in the morning? Link to comment
isilv3r Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Obviously he is not man enough to be able to communicate what the issue was with you. This should tell you that he's not relationship material as communication is one of the biggest attributes that make a relationship successful. I would say move on...if all your friends say you are a good catch...than someone that will appreciate you will come along when you don't expect it. Go out with your friends..be yourself..don't search high and low for the "one" every where you go, it will find you. Link to comment
Iris-PJ Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 i am not sure...last time we were together i said "i think we'd be cute together" and then we fell asleep and then he brought it back up in the morning...but i darted the questions because i was so scared of rejection...then i sent him an email VERY CASUAL saying "i like you" and he wrote back, "i can't respond to that right now"....seriously if he wasnt into me why would be bring up the "i think we'd be cute together" in the morning? maybe he thinks you are playing games with him and he is doing the same to save face. You made the first move, sort of, but then recanted, he probably felt silly for brining it up because he probably thought you didn't mean it anymore. And then later you send him that text, and he feels he has the upper hand. So go the mind games. but only you can feel what's really going on, this is just an outsiders perspective. one piece of advice, never apologize for your feelings, its ok to tell someone you like them as long as it is genuine. I say this because I think the reason the guy I was talking to stopped talking to me was because I said I liked him. I said it casually during one of our conversations, he didn't say anything in response and we continued talking. I just said it, there was not planning it. In my experience with guys is that not all can handle a girl that is straight out, it's as if by saying "I like you" was equivalent to "let's get married". Well that's my experience and I don't want to pigeonhole all guys. good luck and don't worry. -pj Link to comment
redhearts Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 My friend is in his 30s, his last gf, only gf when he was 26 lasted four months and hes on his way to being a 40 year old virgin. If you come out too desperate, trying too hard or just plain boring or too needy than a guy may be like, next! Link to comment
desert_rose26 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 do you go out and meet people? Link to comment
MD Geist Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Atleast you have dated. Iam 22 years old and never had a girlfriend once! in my life and you've been single for only 4 years? Link to comment
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