sushi_pompom Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 I'm seeing this guy and things are going great. We've both developed feelings for one another and physically we are very attracted...The problem, when we are together we are nervous and it makes it kinda hard for us to talk. Over the phone is great...we talked every night last week for at least an hour and half but when we are one on one it's kinda nerve-wracking. He is kinda shy but I'm usually a very gregarious girl but he turns me into a bumbling fool I don't get to see him too often because he lives awhile away and our schedules don't always mesh...you think maybe it's just butterflies and dating jitters and if so how can we get over it? Thanks! Link to comment
george237 Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Talk about something you have in common, or your family, or anything. Or you guys could just makeout the whole time. Link to comment
Weeblie Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Lately, I can't seem to get past the nervous phase with guys and since I tend to attract real outgoing types...I rarely get more than one or two dates. They think I'm not interested and move on. But... My first real relationship was with a rather introverted guy. Not so much shy, but not exactly a talker, so he gave me more chances than most. So maybe you're guy will be willing to put up with a little more nervous behavior since he seems real nervous too. Anyway, the dynamic in that relationship changed when one day I said, aww heck! And just said something totally ridiculous and stupid to him. I believe it was a real cheesy knock knock joke. Anyway, the silliness kind of loosened both of us up and we were able to start talking more freely. Maybe you should try joking around like that? Link to comment
sushi_pompom Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 Or you guys could just makeout the whole time. LOL! That's kinda how it goes most of our date it okay to do that though? I mean we do know each other and talk on the phone quite a bit...but I don't want it to be just kissing and fooling around while he's down here...and it's not so much about topics to talk about it's that my brain goes blank when he's around...I become completely twiterpaited and clumsy...it's his fault. He's just too damn adorable...haha! Thank you for your advice!! Link to comment
sushi_pompom Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 Maybe you should try joking around like that? Yeah, we are both really silly and self-proclaimed dorks. This last time he was down here we both did a bit of teasing with each other and by the end of the night we opened up about how we were both falling for one another. I think it just may take some time. I believe I was the same way with my ex when we first started dating, just real awkward feeling and nervous, but it passed. I mean I don't want to lose all of it. I like the butterflies and excitement I would just also like to be able to put a sentence together when I am with him--lol! Thanks for the input!! Link to comment
Whiskers Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Hmmm, how about a couple of glasses of wine? A chat, relax and see where it goes...be careful not to drink to much. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 go out for drinks. it'll loosen you guys up. after a few meetings like that, you won't need drinks. you will be comfortable around each other. it's anxiety. Link to comment
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