Condom came off..

[Sportacus]

Hey guys, Im not really sure how things work around here so I'm just gonna say it.

 

Yesterday afternoon my girlfriend and I were having sex. She was on top of me and wanted to change positions but we she got up I realized that the condom wasn't on me anymore, we looked around for it and I realized it was still inside her. I pulled the condom out of here and we it appeared to be fine with a little precum in it. We stopped having intercourse right after that but I still can't help but feel really worried about it. We were only doing it for about 30 seconds and I'm not sure how long the condom was off. She keeps telling me theres nothing to worry about and doesn't want to pay for a morning after pill and says she's too embarrased if I were to pay.

Should I really be worried right now or what should I do? The thought of pregnancy never really crossed my mind before this and I can't get it off my mind.

 

Any response would be appreciated

[sophie274]

At this juncture it's pretty much your girlfriend's decision. I would suggest you speak to her about your concerns about pregnancy, and especially that given the scenario there is possibility she might get pregnant. If she feels weird about you paying for the MAP, what about paying for a child?! Given that her only objection is cost (and it might not be, I don't know), it seems like a silly reason not to take that extra protection step.

 

In the future, 2 methods together are more fool proof than just one!

[Aviatormy]

I would suggest that no matter how "embarrassing" it might be, put the child first. Do you think it would be fair to the child, if you were to have one, for you to be unable to support it financially simply because you two were "too embarrassed" to get the morning after pill?

 

My suggestion as far as the condom, try a smaller condom so it wont fall off or, make sure you are completely aroused when you put it on and that your penis is COMPLETELY dry. Precum can often be the reason for condoms falling off.

[savatar]

There is always the possibility of pregnancy any time you have sex, and you should always be prepared to accept the consequences if you choose to have sex.

 

However, with that said, back in my unwiser days I had sex a few times with a girl I was dating who was not on birth control and we did not use anything, and she didn't get pregnant from the precum, so you may be ok.

 

I may have just gotten lucky though.

[isilv3r]

dude, don't take the chance....will you still be embarrassed to spend the 50$ for the morning after pill AFTER you find out she's pregnant? Be pro active rather than reactive and take care of it now...don't let pride interrupt your young hood.

[Sportacus]

The condom almost came off and I slid it back on, after that it felt kind of weird so I wasn't really into it, that's probably why it came off.

 

Thank's for the information, I'll try to convince her, it's been about 35 hours since it happened, how much time do we have left?

[isilv3r]

You have until 'yesterday'. Meaning...just do it as soon as possible.

[sophie274]

Technically you have 72 hours, but it works best if you take it ASAP.

[ladyblue07]

It's odd that your girlfriend is not more concerned about this. Ask her if there is another reason she doesn't want to take the morning after pill. Does she have a moral concern about it? (Make sure she knows that it is not the same as an abortion if that seems to be why she's reluctant).

Is there any possibility that she secretly wants to have a baby?

[Sportacus]

actually shes all for abortion but she's convinced that nothings going to happen

[Sportacus]

Has anyone read this article or is this even real?

 

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[Nixee]

IF you are really worried, then yes, a morning after pill is a good idea to put your worries at ease.. that said...

 

Precum, while it CAN lead to pregnancy... this is rare and not likely. Sometimes it contains sperm from a previous ejaculation, sometimes not. If you did not actually get any ejaculate inside of her, chances are very slim that she will become pregnant.

 

It is still a good idea to be safe.... but I honestly wouldn't stress too much based on your story. A pill will put your worries at ease, but a pregnancy sounds very unlikely in this scenario. Do you know if your g/f is ovulating right now? That's the other factor upping pregnancy chances here after all.

[Nixee]

Has anyone read this article or is this even real?

 

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part of that post is based on actual research, and yes... it is real.

 

Actual pre-ejaculate is NOT the same thing as a full ejaculation. It does NOT contain sperm and cannot get you pregnant. Pregnancy only occurs when there is sperm present in the urethra already.

 

I think that would be the only real concern here.

 

That is why the withdrawal method works well for some, and horribly for others.... it can be very iffy (and obviously does not protect against STDs)

[Sportacus]

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1: Contracept Technol Update. 1993 Oct;14(10) Related Articles, Links

 

Researchers find no sperm in pre-ejaculate fluid.

 

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PIP: A study in Boston, Massachusetts, and another study in New York City examined samples of pre ejaculate fluid from HIV seropositive and HIV seronegative men to determine whether HIV was or was not present in pre ejaculate fluid. The researchers found macrophages and CD4 lymphocytes in most samples, indicating that HIV was present. The more significant finding, however, was that most pre ejaculate samples did not contain any sperm and those that did had only small clumps of a very small amount of sperm which seemed to be immobile. A larger study is needed to verify these results. If these results are confirmed, they may dispel the myth that pre ejaculate fluid contains sperm. An ongoing WHO/USAID study shows that the pregnancy rate caused by men with 3 million sperm/ml/ejaculation is very low; fertility clinics consider men with a sperm count of no more than 5 million/ml to be infertile, particularly if is there is low motility. The average ejaculation has about 100 million sperm/ml, but about 10 million sperm pass through the cervical mucus, about 1 million make it to the top of the uterine tract, and just about 100,000 sperm reach the fallopian tubes. Thus, only a couple of sperm, assuming motility, would reach the fallopian tubes in the case of the pre ejaculate samples with some sperm, which tended to be immobile (sperm levels only in the 1000s). Thus, the probability of pregnancy is very love if pre-ejaculate fluid enters the vagina. Pre-ejaculate fluid of 6 of the 9 HIV seropositive donors in Boston and 6 of the 14 HIV seropositive donors in New York contained HIV, regardless of symptom status or antiretroviral therapy status. Thus, the risk of HIV transmission may be higher than unplanned pregnancy, so people should use condoms before the penis enters the vagina, mouth, or anus.

 

PMID: 12286905 [PubMed - indexed for MEDLINE]

 

Journal of Assisted Reproduction Genetics, 2003 Apr;20(4) Zukerman asked "Does preejaculatory penile secretion originating from Cowper's gland contain sperm?" - conclusion: "Preejaculatory fluid secreted at the tip of the urethra from Cowper's gland during sexual stimulation did not contain sperm and thereforee cannot be responsible for pregnancies during coitus interruptus."

 

Here's another two studies that were studying the HIV viral load in pre-ejaculate and incidentally showed that there isn't sperm:

 

Ilaria G, Jacobs JL, Polsky B, Koll B, Baron P, MacLow C, Armstrong D, Schlegel PN. Detection of HIV-1 DNA sequences in pre-ejaculatory fluid. Lancet 1992;340:1469.

 

Pudney J, Oneta M, Mayer K, Seage G, Anderson D. Pre-ejaculatory fluid as potential vector for sexual transmission of HIV-1. Lancet 1992;340:1470.

 

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[Sportacus]

I never plan to use that method...but thanks for the advice, I think i'll trry and get those pills, it would be nice to have the second one too incase of another slip up

[Sportacus]

Oh and she's not ovulating that ended last week I think