Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Question to the men out there. Do you go online to meet someone special or for sex? What are your opinions of link removed compared to the sites EHarmony and Chemistry? Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 not a man, but imho, i've done match and eharmony. i think the men on eharmony are usually more genuinely looking for a relationship. i've met a lot of players and player-wanna-bes on match. and some guys do both! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 I had heard that about Match. I was considering online dating and wanted to stay away from any sites that are known primarily for hookups. Link to comment
Luke Skywalker Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I go on 'normal' dating sites with the express intent to just meet people, and hopefully find someone special. link removed is considered a 'normal' dating site. Usually, I just have no luck so I don't take it that seriously, but wouldn't be surprized if lots of people go on there to just hook-up with someone who is able to press their buttons the right way. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 well, i dunno if i'd say it's all hookups. several of my friends met their husbands on link removed. i think some guys on there really are looking for relationships. and then there are other guys who really aren't single but are still on there with a profile. (my last bf. ) i think because of the higher price with eharmony and that insane 400 question test, if someone is willing to do that, you know they are more serious about finding a partner. some of the guys on match, i swear they didn't even read my profile, they just wrote because they liked how i looked. Link to comment
melrich Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I was considering online dating and wanted to stay away from any sites that are known primarily for hookups. Oh I think you would have to be wary of that regardless of the site you use. I think when doing the whole online dating thing it is always best to do it with your radar well and truly on. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Annie, That's a terrible thing to discover (boyfriend). You're right the cost and the time would show more incentive in finding a relationship. Not a big surprise they responded w/o looking at the profile. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 There has been a lot of posting within the past few days re. online dating, and unfortunately it has been on the negative side. Link to comment
melrich Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 There has been a lot of posting within the past few days re. online dating, and unfortunately it has been on the negative side. I think it has its place but I think you also have to understand it is much more a numbers game and far mor impersonal than the real world (like many things online). So probably a completely different set of rules and etiquette applies. Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I do online dating to find a relationship but no luck yet for me. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 I wish, Why haven't you had luck? Link to comment
RedWingsFan Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I'm male and on Match. I have no expectations from it. I want to meet people, and if there is a spark that turns into a relationship...cool. If not...cool - hopefully I meet new people! I don't think you can view online dating as either black or white (desiring a relationship or wants sex only). There is a middle ground. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 There has been a lot of posting within the past few days re. online dating, and unfortunately it has been on the negative side. the other thing to think about is that people tend to come here when their relationships are going poorly, not when things are going really well. so, you may not get the most balanced perspective. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 I was just curious if Match were more for the casual dater as opposed to the serious dater? Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 i think it depends on your area and where you live. i think link removed is an intermediate site. not as serious as eharmony, but not as casual as plentyoffish or adultfriendfinder. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I've gone on about 6 dates with different guys off Match. Never got any dates from eHarmony. Most of the guys on Match, I didn't click with, or they didn't click with me, or they were just out looking for sex. I dunno. I don't like online dating and am now more interested in meeting guys in real life than through online. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 I checked out link removed. That was something else! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Oh I think you would have to be wary of that regardless of the site you use. I think when doing the whole online dating thing it is always best to do it with your radar well and truly on. that's just it, it's the internet, you never know what you are going to get. same with in person actually; but i think in person is the best way to go. i have never done online dating and never will. Link to comment
allypally Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Oh, I think a combination of instant gratification, maybe cheating on their SO, passing time until the woman they really want becomes single again. I've tried it a couple of times now and always with a negative result. I didn't click with any of them, had nothing in common - it was a bizarre experience. Link to comment
very lonely Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 I have been on most of them...Eharmony matches seem more serious... Match is okay - they have a lot of members, but I find it geared too young for me (I am 43). Plenty of Fish is a joke....unless you are looking for unemployed, mentally unstable or married. I like EH, but depending on where you live, you may not get a lot of matches. just tried eharmony for the sake of trying, ZERO matches. not looking for sex by any means...looking for companionship/friendship.......basically looking for someone to talk to and hang out with. Link to comment
Shudder Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Plenty of Fish is a joke....unless you are looking for unemployed, mentally unstable or married. I have to add that everyone on there seems to be looking for some kinda dream to float down from the heavens and sweep them of their feet too! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 Miss Kitty, Did you have many successful dates? I live in NYC, don't think I'll have a problem finding members. Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 I wish, Why haven't you had luck? I have no luck because a lot of girls are so picky..I am only 5'3 and I am not attractive at all but I share a lot of the same common interests with many girls like sports, running, music etc, but they do not respond to me at all. It is very hard to meet a girl from a dating website. I have been doing online dating for about 9 years now and I have not met one girl yet Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 I wish, I'm sorry. May I ask why you still date online? Have you tried taking courses or joining groups of interest?? I can honestly say that I had absolutely no physical attraction to my ex the first month and a half, what attracted me was his sense of humor and passion for life. Too bad he turned out to be a deceitful creep! Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Question to the men out there. Do you go online to meet someone special or for sex? What are your opinions of link removed compared to the sites EHarmony and Chemistry? the eharmony and link removed dating websites are SCAMS and even "Time Magazine" agreed. Stay away from them. Link to comment
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