What are some of the most commonly used

[sarsapolis6]

playful verbal jabs that you can use with a woman, especially if you don't know her that well?

 

Like these aren't designed to offend (far from it) but to invoke laughter from her. And of course, once you get her to laugh, you're going to be valuable to her.

 

Or how can I do it without focusing on her? Example...the guy says something, she responds, then he makes a comment and she laughs. I'm sorry that I'm being vague, but if I actually had several examples then I'd probably wouldn't be posting this!

 

 

I already know the following info about her:

books

music

cultural activities

food

her job

[sarsapolis6]

btw, I've seen this happen before, several times. It happens in school and at work.

 

And my intention is not to insult when I mean by "jab."

[Clementine orange]

I use "Sooooooooo, what planet are you from" with a big smile so they know I am joking.

I don't know, it's mostly improve really. Steer away from overt sexuality or race/religion etc.

[Maverick32x]

If I'm going for the.. "makefun of approach" which in my experince, works with 'girls' and not 'women' it usually involves just making fun of something that they're doing.. or not doing.... or just analyze something excessively.... and clearly make it noticeable that I'm joking.... I'm also kind of a very sarcastic person.. so that usually comes out~

[sarsapolis6]

do you have an examples?

 

And as for women, how can I lighten up the mood with them?

[george237]

Dude you can't give examples of that. Just be yourself if you are not used to poking fun at somebody then don't do it. You will most likely sound awkward saying it and then there will be the awful silence afterward. Be yourself

[pinkelephant]

yea, there's no formula. lol. you just go with the flow... i always make fun of guys i like. that's usually how we flirt.

[Lastlaugh637]

"I could marry a girl like you...(pause)... But I'd divorce you a week later and take half your money. Yep I'm a gold digger... And a heartbreak waiting to happen you should probably stay away from me"

 

My personal favorite.

 

Btw don't just look up lines on the Internet and start using them. The reason David DeAngelo's or Pick up material works is because they give guys beliefs and mindsets to suceed. 80 percent of what they teach is inner stuff to help you be congruent with whatever you say.

[pinkelephant]

btw, if you use the same line over and over again. it becomes so lame. girls pick it up and laugh. but at you not with you. :S

[george237]

"I could marry a girl like you...(pause)... But I'd divorce you a week later and take half your money. Yep I'm a gold digger... And a heartbreak waiting to happen you should probably stay away from me"

 

My personal favorite.

 

Btw don't just look up lines on the Internet and start using them. The reason David DeAngelo's or Pick up material works is because they give guys beliefs and mindsets to suceed. 80 percent of what they teach is inner stuff to help you be congruent with whatever you say.

 

You are seriously telling this guy to use pick up lines. That is horrible advice, and if it is working for you try not using them and see how much more action you get.

[Maverick32x]

You are seriously telling this guy to use pick up lines. That is horrible advice, and if it is working for you try not using them and see how much more action you get.

 

lolololol

 

but ya, don't use any "canned" lines... the most important thing is being "natural" with anything you say... I don't really buy into the whole planned conversation... too much... having a couple topics to fall back on or a general plan of action is not a bad thing.. but trying to map out a "pick up line" most often leads to failure.... from what I've seen atleast...

[ghost69]

don't use lines. compliment then on something they are wearing. then say something about their smile. the jokes should come naturally. and don't try and make them laugh too much to were you saturate it.

[drewciouS281]

im very sarcastic and i make up my own lingo lango word slang and it usually has women rolling on the floor. Just be creative and lively

[Lastlaugh637]

You are seriously telling this guy to use pick up lines. That is horrible advice, and if it is working for you try not using them and see how much more action you get.

 

 

You even quoted my post and STILL misunderstood it. Here let me highlight the part you missed.

 

 

Btw don't just look up lines on the Internet and start using them. The reason David DeAngelo's or Pick up material works is because they give guys beliefs and mindsets to suceed. 80 percent of what they teach is inner stuff to help you be congruent with whatever you say.

[Imprecision]

Contrary to popular belief,

 

Planned lines do work. In fact, they can work better than non-planned lines, because you have the advantage of familiarity. You've used the line maybe 20-30 times. thereforee, you know the situation inside and out (e.g. you can predict her reaction, you can improvise on the line, etc.). On the other hand, the woman has heard it only once.

 

This is especially true when approaching women. As a beginner, you need to pick one line and stick with it. Two advantages - first, you don't have to invent a new line everytime an attractive woman walks by. Second, you calibrate a lot faster.

 

After a while, you begin to understand why some lines work, and why some don't. Then spontaneous approaching becomes possible.

 

Don't trust the crowd. Most guys do not approach women. They don't know how to. This is why when they go to bars, they sit in the corner staring into their beer. The only way to get better at approaching women and attracting women is to practise. Then you know what is true and what isn't.

 

80 percent of what they teach is inner stuff to help you be congruent with whatever you say.

 

Let me expand this - most guys are approval-seeking. They fear giving offense.

 

To be playful, stop seeking approval. What do I mean? The more you socialise and practise socialising, the more you explore the limits of socialising. You have an intuitive understanding of what is acceptable social behaviour and what isn't. You can also predict how someone will react to your comments.

 

You then become fearless. You say whatever you want, and if someone takes offense with you, you know that it's their problem not yours. Once this happens, you have no problem making playful verbal jabs.

 

You have to be fearless. Most girls are not fearless. They are fearful and approval seeking. (Most guys are also fearful and approval seeking, but to a lesser extent.) It's the truth. When you're fearless, other people look to you for approval.

 

Fearless - this is how life should be lived.

[george237]

I strongly disagree but if it works for you do it.

[Lastlaugh637]

That's all what I believe. It's especially important to think up a good opening line so you don't have to think up a new thing everytime you see a hot girl walking down the street.

 

Plus if you wait too long to approach then you start to talk yourself out of it and become afraid to do it. With a good opener you can immediately start a conversation within 3 seconds and you get to practice it and get better at dealing with responses. Usually opinion questions work... Esp about drama and relationships girls will literally start talking for 15 mins about that stuff.

 

To expand on what I said, learn the important inner game first. If you just go rattle off some lines and look for some magic bullets you'll usually fail. Your aim is to be so rock solid stable that nothing upsets you or catches you off guard.

[george237]

That's all what I believe. It's especially important to think up a good opening line so you don't have to think up a new thing everytime you see a hot girl walking down the street.

 

Plus if you wait too long to approach then you start to talk yourself out of it and become afraid to do it. With a good opener you can immediately start a conversation within 3 seconds and you get to practice it and get better at dealing with responses. Usually opinion questions work... Esp about drama and relationships girls will literally start talking for 15 mins about that stuff.

 

To expand on what I said, learn the important inner game first. If you just go rattle off some lines and look for some magic bullets you'll usually fail. Your aim is to be so rock solid stable that nothing upsets you or catches you off guard.

 

Well I guess I am quick on my feet and never had to practice a line to use. I will pick out something about her or the surrounding environment and use that as an ice breaker.

[galaxy71]

playful verbal jabs that you can use with a woman, especially if you don't know her that well?

 

Like these aren't designed to offend (far from it) but to invoke laughter from her. And of course, once you get her to laugh, you're going to be valuable to her.

 

Or how can I do it without focusing on her? Example...the guy says something, she responds, then he makes a comment and she laughs. I'm sorry that I'm being vague, but if I actually had several examples then I'd probably wouldn't be posting this!

 

 

I already know the following info about her:

books

music

cultural activities

food

her job

 

Here's one line: You are undressing me with your eyes.

[MushroomGod]

Here's one line: You are undressing me with your eyes.

 

And like the worst ever. Do you mean, "Are you undressing me with your eyes?" Then follow up with, "I knew it! You girls are all alike, only looking for one thing."

[MushroomGod]

And like the worst ever. Do you mean, "Are you undressing me with your eyes?" Then follow up with, "I knew it! You girls are all alike, only looking for one thing."

 

FYI I said that to a girl tonight and gotta yes I was speechless.

[george237]

Here's one line: You are undressing me with your eyes.

 

Horrible. I didn't think people used those things anymore. I'll tell you what I will start a thread in a few hours for pick-up lines. I will ask the ladies opinions on what they think of them.

[Lastlaugh637]

Out of context... Every girl on this forum will say... Omg these are terrible, they would never work...etc. But in the real world they love them. I've seen it with my own eyes. The first time I started being "cocky and funny" and doing David DeAngelo tactics I was in shock. I was thinking "Oh My God is this really working?". It makes no logical sense but it works.

 

I tend to use cocky/funny material Occasionally, to get the girls laughing or playfully slapping my shoulder. My whole game though isn't centered around lines. Remember that.

[george237]

Whatever works, but I have never used them and never will. But if something works for you then you should use it. But I would put money on you would have better chances if you learned how to approach a woman without a line.

[galaxy71]

Horrible. I didn't think people used those things anymore. I'll tell you what I will start a thread in a few hours for pick-up lines. I will ask the ladies opinions on what they think of them.

 

 

George, before you shoot down that advice, have you tested it?What's so horrible about that line? It's teasing. It's supposed to make her laugh, not make her fall in love with you. The point of this thread is not about working on your self-esteem or learning how to be a good listener. It wasn't about whether or not he should script any part of the interaction with the girl he likes. The OP wanted examples of verbal jabs so that he can come up with his own material. I don't understand how this thread went from being about playful jabs to a philosophy of pickup thread. Some of you guys are giving advice that the OP never asked for.

 

The problem with pickup lines is the mentality behind the guy who uses the lines. A lot of guys believe that using some line will get the girl the way some mythical love spell will attract a girl. Instead of working on themselves, some guys think that if he can use the right line, it might press her buttons and get her drawn to him. I don't get the sense that the OP has that mindset at all. Instead he just wanted examples of how to flirt.