notsoanonymous Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 My boyfriend has never dealt with the death of a very close family member. He learned today that his maternal grandmother is very ill and is likely to pass from liver cancer. She has been sick off and on for the majority of the last year. He has always been very close to her and as a child she had an active role in raising him as his mother was single for part of that time and then remarried. I have very little information about her condition or how long she may live but I'm aware that they do not expect to treat her condition. She is going home to enjoy the rest of her time here and pass in the privacy and comfort of her own surroundings. I lost my own grandmother about 12 years ago but we were not as close as they clearly are. Although I did grieve for her, I'm humble enough to say this really isn't the same situation. One other note I should point out is a quick comment about his relationship with his mother (this is her mother who is sick). She is an extremely emotional woman and tends to lean very heavily on my boyfriend for support. Whenever her marriage is rocky or something is wrong in her life, she places this in his lap to help her through. I have some serious concerns about her placing additional stress on him during this time because she is not likely to handle this well herself (understandable, but not enough to be leaning so heavily on her child IMO). What are some ways/things I can do to be a supportive partner in all of this? He and his mother are going to hang out with the grandparents for the rest of today - I offered to come by and bring or cook them dinner at their house. I'm jsut really unsure as to how I might be able to assist his family in this time or what I should do to be a supportive girlfriend beyond the typical listening and talking with him when he wants me to. Advice from those who were the ones actually going through the loss would be helpful. How would you have appreciated being treated? Thanks much :sad: Link to comment
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