a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Aimed at both sexes here ... how did you feel / how did it work out / tell me about it Link to comment
redtan Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 It felt awsome, it didn't work out as apparently we changed too much over the years and she didn't feel the same about me. But we were young, obviously was her first love (first other things too) so she felt pressured at an early age and wanted to see what else is out there. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 For clarification I mean your first REAL love, not just some stupid 2 week "date" Link to comment
KAT MOMMY Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 It was an awesome feeling I just wish I knew then what I know now and things would have been a go! Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 I married him. Care to elaborate more on this ? Feelings before you go to marriage, etc, etc. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 He was the love of my life and he was the first and only guy, I've ever been in love with. We were both only 17 when we met, were together a few years, off and on. We were engaged to be married. To cut a long story short, it didn't last and we both eventually met and remarried other people. Ten years after I last saw him, he came looking for me and found me. So it would seem that he hadn't forgotten me and I hadn't forgotten him. Nothing came of it however, we didnt meet up, as we were both still married at the time and it was my choice not to meet him, even though I'd desperately wanted too....but I know, just know...that one day I will see him again Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Care to elaborate more on this ? Feelings before you go to marriage, etc, etc. Well we met as teenagers. It was a typical teenage romance (not very mature or serious yet)- then as we both "grew up" together, the bond became stronger and I think it became "Real" love when stuck together through difficult times and big transitions in life. We were always best friends. As adults it became clear that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together (couldn't imagine life without one another and we had the same goals and dreams- so we tied the knot) But because we met so young we were together for 8 years before actually getting married. There were certain things we wanted to accomplish first educationally, financially, and professionally- so we had a long engagement and moved in together first. I knew it was "real" love because: *I couldn't imagine my life without him *I wanted to wake up to him each morning & grow old with him *Could see myself carrying his child *I'd die for him, if it came down to it *Admired and respected the person he was *Felt that he knew me better than anyone *Physcial chemistry *Strong romantic feelings persist, even through difficult times in life, and past the "honeymoon" stage Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 It felt like the feeling you get just before your first roller coaster ride but everytime we were together. It felt like I was the most important person in her life. It feels like I have a reason to excell with some one who will be by my side through most anything. It feels like knowing she will always rub me on my back when times are tough. It feels amazing like some type of drug. It felt liberating to experience things that sexually and emotionally I had never felt before. It filled the void I had been searching to be rid of. Today we are together and still in love even after a break up period. Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 But because we met so young we were together for 8 years before actually getting married. There were certain things we wanted to accomplish first educationally, financially, and professionally- so we had a long engagement and moved in together first. Was he the only person you dated? Were either of you ever in other relationships before you got married? Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 Well we met as teenagers. It was a typical teenage romance (not very mature or serious yet)- then as we both "grew up" together, the bond became stronger and I think it became "Real" love when stuck together through difficult times and big transitions in life. We were always best friends. As adults it became clear that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together (couldn't imagine life without one another and we had the same goals and dreams- so we tied the knot) Well my girl and I are together @ 19 . Did you two go to the same college ? More info haha Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I actually went to a local college and he went straight into competitive employment after high school. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 I actually went to a local college and he went straight into competitive employment after high school. How did that work out ? How long was it before you started seriously thinking you'd be forever with him ? Was this both your first relationship or ? Link to comment
ycmanvs Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 We met in med school. We were both really young and competitive. After the first couple of years, we broke up and I dropped out of school. Biggest mistake of my life.... Link to comment
LtlMissLisa Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 My first love now seems like an eternity ago.. we are still friends but we were too young. It was an amazing feeling though. However, since then I've dated a few people and found out more about what I look for in a guy not just the fact that he is romantic or something cheesy like that. I have the man of my dreams now and thinking back how I felt with my first love is nothing like how i feel now, it is beyond what I could have dreamed for. Nothing is easy in any relationship and everyone has different experiences with first loves. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 M Nothing is easy in any relationship and everyone has different experiences with first loves. Exactly why I want to hear people's stories Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 How did that work out ? How long was it before you started seriously thinking you'd be forever with him ? Was this both your first relationship or ? It wasn't our first relationship, but it was the first very serious, long-term one for both of us. I think by the time I was a sophomore in college I started thinking that we'd be together forever. Most people told me we'd "grow apart" when I went to college, but we got closer. Link to comment
lila... Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 We were both very young, so it was an innocent, young love. It felt amazing, it was the first time I felt butterflies in my stomach and all that stuff. It didn't work out because it was being kept secret from my family and I couldn't hide it any longer. I still think of him often, maybe cause I haven't met anyone who's made me feel more. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 It wasn't our first relationship, but it was the first very serious, long-term one for both of us. I think by the time I was a sophomore in college I started thinking that we'd be together forever. Most people told me we'd "grow apart" when I went to college, but we got closer. Hmm this is weird ... I'm going to be a sophomore ... we have only known each other for 6 months, dating 3 months ... but I can feel a LTR growing here with her .... Hmmmmmm Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Hmm this is weird ... I'm going to be a sophomore ... we have only known each other for 6 months, dating 3 months ... but I can feel a LTR growing here with her .... Hmmmmmm That's great news man, it really is, but I'd caution you about one thing: remember that college is a time to grow and find out about yourself. My ex and I met in High School and dated throughout college (different colleges) and were together for 8 years before things ended in January. Why did they end? Because she felt like she needed to experience new things and people. Not unreasonable at all, but it still broke my heart; and a part of me does wonder if we dated in college but had not been so exclusive would this still have happened. If you stay together then try to grow together by not allowing her (and yourself) to not miss out on things because you are in a relationship. If you don't then I know from personal experience that it eventually comes back to bite you. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I am with him now, and it's often really really hard. You want to give up, you want to find something different or bash your head into a wall. The truth for me is that he is my everything. He is my "person". I want the rest of my life to involve happiness and hardships with him. Every time I hear a story or see some news clip about someone who has lost their partner, I cry like a baby. You know when you find that person, and I never want to be apart from mine. Link to comment
SchecterGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 My first love was probably more infatuation. This was back in high school. Questionable circumstances since I met her through a friend that was trying to get with her. I was so into her, but she had some kind of mental issue (we thought bi-polar) that would make her extremely mean and sad. We were together for about 7 months. I spoke to her once a year after we broke up. Sounded like she got things under control. Saw her again a year after that, but I could not talk to her much since she was with friends. Link to comment
Jelina Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I am still with my first love. We had alot of problems when we first started going out but we have worked through most of them. I feel like if our relationship has grown a lot. My first love was at age 19 we are still together. We'll have 4 years in October. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I am still with my first love. We had alot of problems when we first started going out but we have worked through most of them. I feel like if our relationship has grown a lot. My first love was at age 19 we are still together. We'll have 4 years in October. Wow. I could almost just leave that as my response I was never in a relationship prior to the one I am in now. I met him when I was just turning 19 through a mutual friend. There was no interest, chemistry or any of that, he just sort of grew on me. The more time I spent with him as friends, the more I realized he possessed all the qualities I imagined in a partner, and more. He was crazy about me right from the start and it was slightly overwhelming. I finally committed myself to him after dating for about 6 months and things just grew from there. It was true, genuine and at times, felt somewhat old fashion. Since it was my first relationship I needed quite a bit of time adjusting and getting used to things, but looking back..it was the greatest thing. We built an amazing foundation and took the time with each other, which is what I think is the reason behind our success, 4 years later. The love came gradually and quietly. The sparks, butterflies, and sheery craziness was never there in the beginning...it came after. It was an amazing feeling to finally say "I am in love with this man.." and knew it and the entire world could tell I was in love. And that feeling has never faded, it has only grown as we've grown and changed and became closer and continue to grow. Link to comment
Jelina Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Lol, I could have written your response too! He is actually my first boyfriend, and I wasn't instantly attracted to him either, my feelings grew for him after we became friends. He was also crazy about me first and we met through a mutual friend. Lol Link to comment
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