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So sick of women on dating sites painting all men online with the same BRUSH

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what is it with women and this paranoid crap about meeting someone online? I recently came accross this pretty girl and we were sending messages back and forth and then I gave her my email, NOT MY PHONE NUMBER, and she says-"can we just chat online for a while because I'm new at this online dating thing"

 

Would a guy in the street get the same treatment? What is wrong with EMAILING offline?-lol I really feel most women like this should just stay off of online dating services because they are doing nothing but wasting men's time.

 

Now when I take things slow over the phone and not initiate a date right away they say I'm moving too slow. When I'm aggressive the girl wants to take her time, when I play it cool and take it slow the girl says I'm not aggressive.

 

 

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Well, if she was not willing to take the chatting to the email level and wanted to keep it within the confines of the dating site then time to kick her to the curb and go "Next". There are a lot of timewasters online who are really not interested in anything more than cyber chats.

 

 

The thing that is annoying is someone who is not attractive would JUMP AT THE CHANCE to email me offline-lol Someone pretty has to take her time and say-"i'm new at this".

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what is it with women and this paranoid crap about meeting someone online?

 

Talk about painting with the same brush...

 

It seems to me that she is simply being cautious and wants to learn a little more before emailing, why not slow down and see if she is more comfortable giving out her email after a bit more than just exchanging a few messages? Why do you take it so personal?

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Talk about painting with the same brush...

 

It seems to me that she is simply being cautious and wants to learn a little more before emailing, why not slow down and see if she is more comfortable giving out her email after a bit more than just exchanging a few messages? Why do you take it so personal?

 

because we both PAID for a membership to come accross someone we are attracted to and may possibly want to go on a date with so why now just have a SECONDARY email until she feels comfortable with the guy? It's not like I asked for her phone number, it a fricken email adddress

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She DID say she was new at online dating. I guess if someone was a bit too pushy so early on I might be a bit turned off about going to the next step myself. Remember, there are usually more men contacting women..and she might be overwhelmed. And perhaps there are some men on the site that are willing to chat with her for a bit and are not in some kind of hurry. (The pushy hurry thing is a red flag..I guess it shows desperation?) I guess rather than getting upset you might just move on to someone else? But sometimes, patience is a virtue and good things come to those who wait. Good luck.

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She DID say she was new at online dating. I guess if someone was a bit too pushy so early on I might be a bit turned off about going to the next step myself. Remember, there are usually more men contacting women..and she might be overwhelmed. And perhaps there are some men on the site that are willing to chat with her for a bit and are not in some kind of hurry. (The pushy hurry thing is a red flag..I guess it shows desperation?) I guess rather than getting upset you might just move on to someone else? But sometimes, patience is a virtue and good things come to those who wait. Good luck.

 

Well i decided to be less pushy and not contact her anymore, don't have time for this silly mess

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She contacted you first but she still might have felt uncertain after the ensuing chat.

 

she did ask me a DUMB question because in one of my photos there are a stack of VHS tapes and she asked-"what's up with those tapes in the background? Does it MATTER??? What was she analyzing the background behind me for? She says she was thinking it was PORN which is retarded because it could have been anything.

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she did ask me a DUMB question because in one of my photos there are a stack of VHS tapes and she asked-"what's up with those tapes in the background? Does it MATTER??? What was she analyzing the background behind me for? She says she was thinking it was PORN which is retarded because it could have been anything.

 

Actually, I think the internet and text messaging has really dumbed down the whole dating and relating process.

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I'm not sure what your question is here?

 

She doesn't want to share emails with you. If you have a problem with that, you let her know and move on. No big deal.

 

One can ask the same question to you: What's the big deal about continuing contact through the dating site? What's the diff?

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I'm not sure what your question is here?

 

She doesn't want to share emails with you. If you have a problem with that, you let her know and move on. No big deal.

 

One can ask the same question to you: What's the big deal about continuing contact through the dating site? What's the diff?

 

Because it's NOT PERSONAL that's why

 

 

the same reason why females don't like receiving flirts

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you act like anybody on an online dating service owes you something. you need to understand that nobody owes you anything. no matter where you meet them.

 

 

well I try to get SOMETHING in return for the money I put out for that monthly membership. So the fact that I just paid for a membership last thursday I would like to be on a date before this month is over.

 

 

don't you like to get something back for the money you put out??

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I think you may be a bit jaded and frustrated, so take a break!

 

I understand how frustrating the on-line dating thing can be, but there are a few logical explanations:

 

1) She really is afraid and wants to take her time with this. Personal e-mail enters into an entirely new "relationship" level!

 

2) She is just interested in cyber chat because she likes the attention, but has no plans on really meeting...

 

3) She may have othe guys on the line and doesn't want to commit!

 

That's the cyber dating scene, get used ot it or move on to somethig else!

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well I try to get SOMETHING in return for the money I put out for that monthly membership. So the fact that I just paid for a membership last thursday I would like to be on a date before this month is over.

 

 

don't you like to get something back for the money you put out??

 

In the past year I have probably had over a dozen dates from on-line dating sites. Some developed into relationships (short term). But my success in responses from women was probably 10% at BEST!!!!!! I literally sent out hundres of winks and e-mails.

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