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Seeking Therapy After Break Up With Sociopath

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I think that might depend on what you need from the therapy session.. A woman's shelter would be a good place to check out for resources... I'm assuming by sociopath, you meant he was abusive in some way... So they would have some resources.

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You sound very angry at your ex. You are calling him a sociopath but how do you know they really are that? Maybe you need to just chill out for a while. Let some of the pain settle down, and give yourself a chance to start healing. When a relationship fails its usually the fault of both. It's not that one is a sociopath and the other is blameless. If you place 100% of the fault on them it will plague you in every relationship you will ever have. Just say'en.

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Hello all, does anyone know where I can get information on therapy services in my area after a break up with a sociopath? Any suggestions would be helpful. I live in Michigan.

 

If you have a regular physician you see, he/she might have a colleague to refer you to. It's generally a good idea because if you like your doctor you would probably like his/her colleagues.

 

That or go to your local hospital and ask for information on local therapists, they're bound to have plenty of resources there.

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I think that might depend on what you need from the therapy session.. A woman's shelter would be a good place to check out for resources... I'm assuming by sociopath, you meant he was abusive in some way... So they would have some resources.

 

Yes he was physically and mentally abusive. He was manipulative, a consistent cheater, and he would push me aggressively, grab me by my arms and throw me around (even slammed me into a wall several times), and he choked me as well. He even held up a knife to me as if he was going to stab me (but didn't). I also think I may have co-dependent personality and borderline personality disorder, but I am really not sure. I am completely lost as of where to get help.

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You sound very angry at your ex. You are calling him a sociopath but how do you know they really are that? Maybe you need to just chill out for a while. Let some of the pain settle down, and give yourself a chance to start healing. When a relationship fails its usually the fault of both. It's not that one is a sociopath and the other is blameless. If you place 100% of the fault on them it will plague you in every relationship you will ever have. Just say'en.

 

Oh no no no. I am definitely apart of the reason we have broken up. I never stated that I wasn't. Actually if you were to ask my boyfriend he would tell you that it was ALL my fault. I know I am not perfect and I NEVER place 100% of the blame on the other person because that is not fair. The reason I believe the guy is a sociopath is that he shows all the signs of one.

 

After choking me once, he attempted suicide to get my attention because he knew he had hurt me. He wanted pity from me and the woman he cheated on me with so he told her I had someone beat him up (that is apart of manipulative ways). My point is I did make mistakes in the relationship and frankly everyone does. I don't think anyone is in a "perfect" relationship but that does not mean his physical and mental abuse has not affected me.

 

Please go here to read the whole story:

 

Also the day after he attempted suicide (by cutting his wrists) he asked me if I knew what a manic depressive was and I told him I heard of the term but didn't know the symptoms, etc. Based on that conversion I think that he knows he has a problem he just can't figure out what it is.

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To add to the other ideas:

 

Your insurance company should have a list of participating providers. You may be able to go on line and select a therapist on the basis of their experience, training, and areas of expertise.

 

If you have a YWCA in your area, they can be a good resource for services for women, including counseling.

 

All the best.

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You sound very angry at your ex. You are calling him a sociopath but how do you know they really are that? Maybe you need to just chill out for a while. Let some of the pain settle down, and give yourself a chance to start healing. When a relationship fails its usually the fault of both. It's not that one is a sociopath and the other is blameless. If you place 100% of the fault on them it will plague you in every relationship you will ever have. Just say'en.

 

That is one of the least helpful pieces of advice I've read on this board. Just sayin.

 

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If this guy was doing what you're writing, you can't accept fault for that. It's on him. We all have our issues in relationships, and I'm sure you've made mistakes as well unless you're perfect, but none of them equate to deserving to be thrown into a wall, choked, or having a knife pulled on you. Whether or not he's a sociopath is irrelevant at this point. This guy is a danger to you and himself. Please call around for clinics that have sliding scale fees if you don't have adequate insurance to cover this. You are realling going to need a steady therapist to get you away from this guy and stay away.

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