MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 SO I posted about this girl I've known for awhile but just recently hooked up with. It seemed like everything was goin well up until Friday. We would text all time to each other, flirty and what not. But now it seems shes gone cold. Its her bday on monday so she has been celebrating all weekend and hasn't invited me out once. It's all good if she wants to be with her friends and all but you would think she'd contact me. We talked friday and were going to hang out during the day yesterday but she had to cancel to be with her mom which was fine. But when I texted her to say hi in the morning I didn't get one back for 6 hours. Today I haven't heard from her either nor have I tried contacting her. She has said she liked me, cooked me dinner twice (awesome!), and basically did all the courting. Its just been this weekend where I haven heard from her. Is that normal for a girl starting a relationship with a guy? I know she likes me, she's said it. But this has been weird anyone have any ideas? Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 When she cancelled, I take it that she did not try to reschedule sometime this weekend? What did you text to her, and how did she reply? Link to comment
bijoux27 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 It's just a weekend...relax. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Why would you wanna be with a girl that doesnt wanna celebrate her birthday with you... at least inviting you along would be nice... it seems like its more of a one sided rel.. good luck.. but she seems to have all the power in the rel and its prob building even more in her favor and only neg consequnces will come from it.... Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Why would you wanna be with a girl that doesnt wanna celebrate her birthday with you... at least inviting you along would be nice... it seems like its more of a one sided rel.. good luck.. but she seems to have all the power in the rel and its prob building even more in her favor and only neg consequnces will come from it.... Totally agree. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 I mean its only been a week and thats cool if she wants to be w/ her friends but its weird I didn't hear from her. I texted her a little while ago and heard from her i said i'd call her tomorrow so we'll see. Link to comment
LanceVanceDance Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I agree with the power thing. It seems like she's got all the power. Were you perhaps too available? Make her understand that when she cancels on you, she won't automatically be able to see you the next time she'd like to. She won't be worried about cancelling on you if she feels like all she has to do for you to come to her is whistle. Celebrating all week-end for her birthday without seeing you even once is definitely fishy. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 Naw I think its ok she was out tonight and texted with me back and forth. She's been partying so I'm not gonna look too much into it. I think I over reacted and will talk to her tomorrow. I've not been too available to her and pulled back alittle even. when i texted her i think she was happy to hear from me. I'm going to push forward as opposed to pulling back. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 dude, calm down. haven't you read the girls that talk like this. listen to yourself. stop whining. easy man easy. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 Dude she put on My Space that she's in a relationship and its not me. Bogus. Link to comment
boo121 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 hey bro. Well in my experience when you go into relationship mode with a girl she plays a little hard to get. Its normal. I wouldnt mention to her about not inviting you out, it looks needy if you say (why didnt you invite me out?). Infact encourage her to have a good time, when she doesnt invite you out. i'll tell you a year ago, i was getting into a relationship with a girl called helen, and she started doing something similar. Maybe i was pushing too hard, maybe she was busy, either way i went out with her and started teasing her about our relationship not working out! anything she did wrong i said "im breaking up with you!" and started pointing out guys in the club, which were checking her out and saying "he's your type, you should go for it!" and she was saying (noo i like you, i want you andy). Anyway its fun and you're kind of saying in a way, (hey if it doesnt work out between us, it doesnt matter) Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 who cares man. move on. I know man but it sux either way. I'm kinda hurt. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I know man but it sux either way. I'm kinda hurt. don't let this happen. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I wouldn't want a girl I just met to come out to a bar with my friends. Then I would feel like I had to talk to her the entire night instead of spending time with people I don't see that often. Stop reading too much into and let her have her weekend out with her friends. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 I don't think anyone read the last part except Ghost, I think she found someone else. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Oh then forget about it. Remember nobody bats a thousand in the dating world. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Her loss.. move on.. she will probaly do the same to the next guy... Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 Yea for sure I found out that its true. It was only a week but i kinda liked her and its been awhile since thats happened. O well. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 you got a piece right? so, no hard feelings. NEXT! Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 Naw I didn't sleep with her, but whatever it just adds to my fear of commitment, I guess i'll go back to not caring. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Naw I didn't sleep with her, but whatever it just adds to my fear of commitment, I guess i'll go back to not caring. That's how you have to look at it. You can't let yourself get hurt everytime someone rejects you. You also can't obsess yourself with women and don't read too much into comments or actions. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 That's how you have to look at it. You can't let yourself get hurt everytime someone rejects you. You also can't obsess yourself with women and don't read too much into comments or actions. The thing is I don't really, this one was different tho, i thought there was a future, I'll get over it. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 The thing is I don't really, this one was different tho, i thought there was a future, I'll get over it. You can't think there is a future after a week or so. The only reason you prob thought she was different is because you have been settleling for women that are not what you are looking for. Then this girl comes along and fits your perfect picture. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 You can't think there is a future after a week or so. The only reason you prob thought she was different is because you have been settleling for women that are not what you are looking for. Then this girl comes along and fits your perfect picture. Wow thats great insight, You're probably right I can really believe that. Thanks i'll really remember that the next time i meet a girl. Maybe I have been settling then not caring. Link to comment
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