joshparker Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 so my ex-girl friend recently ended things with me saying she didnt want to get hurt anymore in our relationship due to all our fall out periods that have happened over the past year, but i wont get into to those. it only took her three days for her to contact me saying she missed me and what not and she wants to get back together. The next day she says she just wants to be friends and get to know each other first before we go any further so she doesnt get hurt. So we have hung out twice as friends ive really gotten to know her and she has really gotten to know me. im really trying to help her through everything going on in her life and being their for her but in someways i think im just being lead on. i just feel that im not needed and that is truly a slow death for a man because she means everything to me. i told her last time how i felt, but she said she needs to get over other things in her life before we get back together and i told her i could respect that, and im the only boy in her life and i mean a lot to her, but its starting to hurt a lot when she wont hold my hand during a movie or that im always the one asking her to hang out. im constantly getting the thoughts that im being lead on because it only took her three days of NC to call me and she knows she means a lot to me and that makes me vunerable t getting lead on, and i think she just wants someone around her... Link to comment
DN Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I think she is using you. She may not mean to but she is. Tell her that being with her in this way is not working for you and that if she doesn't want to get back together you are going to let her go and move on. Link to comment
fairytalefox Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Just give her space, if you really love her. Youll give her all the time she needs to figure out what she needs to figure out. And just because your the one who asks her to hang out doesnt mean she doesnt want to hang out with you. She could always tell you no right? I think she still has feelings for you, but just needs to work through some things right now. Link to comment
joshparker Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Just give her space, if you really love her. Youll give her all the time she needs to figure out what she needs to figure out. And just because your the one who asks her to hang out doesnt mean she doesnt want to hang out with you. She could always tell you no right? I think she still has feelings for you, but just needs to work through some things right now. thats something i really needed hear and your so right. ive never told her i love her but i do and its something im going to work on, and im going to give her all the time she needs if things dont work out in the end well atleast ill have gotten to spend more time with someone i truly love. Link to comment
SpeedingCars Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 You mentioned she's been hurt a lot (by you?)... so she might be guarding her heart extra carefully now. She's obviously not going to lay her heart out on the line. I wouldn't jump so fast to say that she's "using" you. She's confused, hurt, and in a dark place. So yeah, if you truly love her... be there, as a friend, when she needs you. Good luck! I hope everything works out. Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 I think she is using you. She may not mean to but she is. Tell her that being with her in this way is not working for you and that if she doesn't want to get back together you are going to let her go and move on. ^^^ Good advice ^^^ I think you're letting her off easy and in the end you'll get pooped on. Dude don't ever be someone's emotional tampon. Give her the space she needs and if she can't see what she's missing... so be it. Link to comment
joshparker Posted July 16, 2008 Author Share Posted July 16, 2008 bahahahaha guys say move on women say stay. ugh talk about sex biased im even more confused. i think i should just do what my heart tells me and that is move on, shes showed me signs of leading me, lieing, and blowing me off already it seems the more i push her away then the more she wants me but the closer i go the more she pushes me away. Two people shouldnt have to work so hard for a relationship to work and i think my moms right on this one lol Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 That's your best bet Josh... do what your heart says. Link to comment
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