flyingSolo Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Hey! If you read some other threads of mine you would see that things have been going very well between this girl and I that I have been dating. My question is though, how long should match activity go on if you have been dating almost a month? She has been active every once in awhile and I have stayed off, but it is starting to bother me. But like I said, we have only been dating shy of a month. Thanks! Link to comment
metallicastr2k Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Have you met her in person? Talked over the phone? Iv heard a lot of bad things about that site and them paying off girls, or making fake profiles. Id look into it. Link to comment
flyingSolo Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Have you met her in person? Talked over the phone? Iv heard a lot of bad things about that site and them paying off girls, or making fake profiles. Id look into it. Oh no... We have seen eachother a lot. I even went on vacation with her and her friends last week. We have stayed together several nights as well. We are very physical in public and in private. Though no sex, I told her that I would want to wait for when it was right, which impressed her. Though I really mean it. I like her a lot. Before she left on her girl vacation on this pat Wed., she said that she can't wait to see me again and have called and texted acouple of times while she was down there. I just see activity every once in awhile and it bothers me. Link to comment
metallicastr2k Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Well in that case I wouldnt dig into it too much. Casually bring it up to her by saying something like "So do you still use that site" or something of that sort. But I wouldnt worry about it, maby shes just checking messages. Now, if she is flirting around i would ask her about it. But nicely, dont wanna over do it and scare her off Link to comment
Stambler Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I was dating a woman for 2 months who would check it occasionally just to send "No Thank You" replies. I guess she figured she had paid her subcription and might as well saty on... Hmmmm, didn't make sense to me... The thing I have found about match is that people on there will jump at the chance if something better comes along, even if they are dating you. Link to comment
flyingSolo Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 Well in that case I wouldnt dig into it too much. Casually bring it up to her by saying something like "So do you still use that site" or something of that sort. But I wouldnt worry about it, maby shes just checking messages. Now, if she is flirting around i would ask her about it. But nicely, dont wanna over do it and scare her off Yeah, true. But the only thing that bothers me is that she has a blackberry (which so do I) and you can see what the messages say and even respond back to them on the blackberry without logging onto the computer. I don't know, I guess I will have to play it by ear. I don't want to mention it, that would probably not be good for me. Link to comment
bronte Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 She could be checking to see if YOU have been on...Or just feeling curious about the messages she gets and looking at the guys' profiles without intending to do anything about it. Link to comment
metallicastr2k Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 She could be checking to see if YOU have been on...Or just feeling curious about the messages she gets and looking at the guys' profiles without intending to do anything about it. this is quiet possible as well Link to comment
flyingSolo Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 At what point could I open more up or suggest us not dating anybody else? Could I just maybe hint or ask her how match is treating her? I don't want to scare her off. Link to comment
bronte Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 DON'T ask her how Match is treating her, I've had guys ask me about my luck on the dating site where we met and I always find it to be a very confusing question--I usually assume that a guy who asks that wants to move things into the "just friends" category. Either that or he's fishing for compliments, and neither comes off very well... I think an exclusivity conversation should focus on the two of you and how things are going with you as a couple instead of how things are going with her and all the other guys on Match...Being direct is always better, just say you've been enjoying spending time with her and you're not interested in seeing anyone else. No matter what she says, you'll at least know how you stand. Link to comment
flyingSolo Posted July 13, 2008 Author Share Posted July 13, 2008 DON'T ask her how Match is treating her, I've had guys ask me about my luck on the dating site where we met and I always find it to be a very confusing question--I usually assume that a guy who asks that wants to move things into the "just friends" category. Either that or he's fishing for compliments, and neither comes off very well... I think an exclusivity conversation should focus on the two of you and how things are going with you as a couple instead of how things are going with her and all the other guys on Match...Being direct is always better, just say you've been enjoying spending time with her and you're not interested in seeing anyone else. No matter what she says, you'll at least know how you stand. 4 weeks will not be too soon? I mean if she has not been BS..ing me all along then I couldn't understand why I couldn't go well. I just thought that the woman was always suppose to intiate commitement and stuff like that? They want the challenge right? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I was dating a woman for 2 months who would check it occasionally just to send "No Thank You" replies. I guess she figured she had paid her subcription and might as well saty on... Hmmmm, didn't make sense to me... The thing I have found about match is that people on there will jump at the chance if something better comes along, even if they are dating you. That's with anything isn't it?-lol We all live to find someone or something that would be the most beneficial Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I don' think you need to check her activity if she is still agreeing to go out with you. Why do you even care? I was only bothered by a girl creating a new ad because she was NOT CALLING ME or GOING OUT WITH ME. But if she was doing both things then I wouldn't care Link to comment
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