Attraction and Value

[robinhood]

From common sense, as the value of a person increases, your attraction towards them increases. For example, when comparing two identical men but with 2 different jobs, the guy with the more desirable job is more attractive. This is all theory. And anyway, that's an easy scenario.

 

What if an average looking guy who had a good job compared with a good looking guy with an average job?

 

Opinions please =)

[ProtestTheHero]

From common sense, as the value of a person increases, your attraction towards them increases. For example, when comparing two identical men but with 2 different jobs, the guy with the more desirable job is more attractive. This is all theory. And anyway, that's an easy scenario.

 

What if an average looking guy who had a good job compared with a good looking guy with an average job?

 

Opinions please =)

 

If we are talking about relationship potential here, then the job is only important in the sense that it's stable and can support the new lifestyle.

 

If I am an average guy with an awesome job, nothing really changes. Women are not dating my job, they are dating me. If I am not interesting, then my job is fairly irrelevant.

 

However, if I wanted to attract shallow women for sex, then the amount of money my job brings would be relevant.

 

In summary, your job is what you do, not who you are. Do not rely on it to pick up women, and do not use it as an excuse not to either.

 

Personality and looks WILL trump how interesting your job is 99.9% of the time.

[AnotherBrokenDoll]

Neither if they were jerks.

 

I don't ever feel the need to have alot of money. Im not used to it and i think it would just make life harder. I of course want to be comfortable and want to have enough money for the things i need and a few nice things, but in the end money isnt important.

 

I couldn't care less what a man does as a job or how much he brings home as long as he makes me happy and is a good person.

[Timebandit]

From common sense, as the value of a person increases, your attraction towards them increases. For example, when comparing two identical men but with 2 different jobs, the guy with the more desirable job is more attractive. This is all theory. And anyway, that's an easy scenario.

 

What if an average looking guy who had a good job compared with a good looking guy with an average job?

 

Opinions please =)

 

The answer is: it dependes. In general, I think women prefer me who have stable jobs that pays the rent and some. If a guy is doing something he is passionate about, then it is even better. But of course some women are attracted to money and power.

 

There are way to many variables at play to answer your question.

[mgirl]

Average looking man with good job. Looks fade. Go with the opportunities.

[Carmine]

Average looking man with good job. Looks fade. Go with the opportunities.

 

opportunities...aka $$$

[itsallgrand]

The answer is: it dependes. In general, I think women prefer me who have stable jobs that pays the rent and some. If a guy is doing something he is passionate about, then it is even better. But of course some women are attracted to money and power.

 

There are way to many variables at play to answer your question.

 

I agree with Timebandit.

 

Women are individuals. What one woman sees as what will make a person of value, another will think something else.

 

A lot depends on what the individual person herself values.

[ghost69]

too many factors missing. the age of the girl, the age of the guys, the guy's personalities, etc.

 

younger girls will go for the better looking man usually. older women might take either or and not worry so much about a job either. but their personality will matter more to the woman. well, most women. some are money grubbers.

[boo121]

good looks and good job are desirable, but they arnt the whole picture

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

Average looking man with good job. Looks fade. Go with the opportunities.

Do women look 'down the road'? Do any of us do 'at the moment'? Does age factor in? I think the heat of the moment erases plans. I mean attraction is so powerful that even the most guarded against it can be caught off guard. Not so much the other way around where they say looks don't matter, but when an unattractive guy is there, looks all of a sudden becomes a factor, from what I've seen and experienced.

[vwright]

What if an average looking guy who had a good job compared with a good looking guy with an average job?

 

 

 

in response to what you said it is all about connection, how you feel about the person, how that person makes you feel...you shouldnt judge who has a better job, or even looks...in my opinion it is all about how you feel, if the two of you get a long and if it feels right...go in open minded, leave out being shallow

[Batya33]

Do women look 'down the road'? Do any of us do 'at the moment'? Does age factor in? I think the heat of the moment erases plans. I mean attraction is so powerful that even the most guarded against it can be caught off guard. Not so much the other way around where they say looks don't matter, but when an unattractive guy is there, looks all of a sudden becomes a factor, from what I've seen and experienced.

 

You're assuming that attraction and looks are synonymous.

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

You're assuming that attraction and looks are synonymous.

When is it not and how rare is that compared to attraction to someone's looks? How long does it devolop? Over night? Over time?

 

I ask because I am sick and tired of hearing people giving me these compliments about me the person only to see it become inapplicable in the dating world. And no it's not my attitude or my shyness as those who have never met would assume. I know what it is an the only reason why other people won't tell me is because who would say "yeah, it's because you're not attractive." They sugar coat it and give these ten step advice programs.

 

And then there are those who preach confidence, only to be seen as studs, which is laughable.

 

Sorry about my rant, I am fed up with this manure. And before anyone talks to me about sitting on a computer vs. going out and doing something about it, I haven't been on as much in the past 6 or so months because I've been going out much more and seeing the results 'amazingly' play out as I pictured.

[justbrowsing]

It's a question that really is based individually. One man's garbage can be another's treasure (isn't that how it goes?)

 

For me, looks are a definite plus. But then again, combine that w/a great personality and I'm hooked. Bottom line in terms of $ value: you've gotta have a good and stable career. A man doesn't have to make major bucks. In fact, I think it's quite intimidating.

[ProtestTheHero]

You're assuming that attraction and looks are synonymous.

 

I am quite unclear on how they differ, I'm afraid. Experience has taught me that they are synonymous.

[Batya33]

To me liking someone's looks doesn't mean I am attracted to them as far as wanting to date the person. I've admired certain men's looks and felt no chemistry with them. It might be because of a vibe or energy I sense, because of lack of eye contact, because when they speak they don't sound articulate or intelligent enough, or there's a certain lack of sparkle despite having really attractive features. And, being attracted to someone doesn't mean i necessarily think they are hot looking - chemistry is a mish mash of so many things.

 

Obviously looks matter - I'm not going to kiss someone I find repulsive looking, but I might very much want to kiss someone who from an objective standpoint I normally would not find good looking - there's just something about the person.