knarf Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 I went out with this girl twice already during our lunch break... the first date was okay we we're both excited but nervous at the sametime. So we scheduled a 2nd lunch date and she actually did her hair and smelled really nice. I was flattered because no other girl ever did that for me before. The second date was pretty much the same but the conversation was a little more personal and she was the one doing most of the talking which was fine. We went to a store to walk off what we just ate right after lunch. This is where things started getting a little weird because she was trying to get me to buy her certain things by giving me hints. Then she was hinting that she wanted a bike for her birthday which is coming up pretty soon. I just stood quiet because I didn't really have the money to start buying her stuff (if given more time I would've atleast got her the bike as a birthday present). I had this really bad vibe while we we're walking around in the store. She seemed like a Daddy's little princess type girl. We got back to work and on the way back I asked her for her phone number. She gave it to me but she looked a little nervous like she didn't really want to give it to me. The next day I asked her if she wanted to get lunch again and she said Nah lets do it next week. Do you think that I scared her off by not buying her anything. I was gonna just stop right there and just forget about her. Some other guy that talks to her kept asking me for details and i told him that I don't think she's interested in me. He told me "don't be scared just call her up for a date she's playing hard to get. I bit the bullet and called her up and asked her to go out on an real date and she never answered the phone and hasn't returned my call. I left a message on her cell phone but she never got back to me. It's been almost a day and that probably only made things worse. I really don't know what happened but I don't think she's interested in me anymore. Maybe I was moving to slow for her. The only thing I really did was put my arm around her and maybe that just got her frustrated. Link to comment
Abadabbadoo Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 1. Breathe. 2. If she really is the type to want to be bought stuff and you not doing so miffed her, it's good that you scared her off. 3. Don't listen to advice of mutual friends. They're seldom objective and often have their own entertainment interests at heart. 4. Discretion in the workplace is a good thing. Lunch more than twice looks like a pattern, and ... just don't. 5. A guy putting his arm around me before I'd touched him inadvertently a few times would skeeve me out. So unless she'd been straddling you at lunch and your only response was to put your arm around her coldly (i.e. I misread what you meant by "only thing I really did") then it might have felt clingy rather than distant. There are exceptions to all of these, YMMV and all that. Link to comment
soaking_wet Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 In my opinion: The second date says it all. Maybe she just wasn't feeling it. When I don't call a guy back, or ignore all his calls, or tell him, "nah let's do it next week" .. they're excuses. And yeah, don't go on day dates. lol it puts you in the "friend" zone. I don't think she's interested anymore. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 In my opinion: The second date says it all. Maybe she just wasn't feeling it. When I don't call a guy back, or ignore all his calls, or tell him, "nah let's do it next week" .. they're excuses. And yeah, don't go on day dates. lol it puts you in the "friend" zone. I don't think she's interested anymore. What's wrong with a DAY DATE for a first date? Also keep in mind it gets dark at 9pm so a person should schedule a date AFTER 9pm so that the street lights are on? Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 You could have had another date if you bought her stuff. Sounds like a gold-digging (insert bad words). All I have to say is NEXT! Link to comment
Yates33 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 A bike? Dates during your lunch break? Asking for the phone number after two "dates" .... putting your arm around her? How old are you guys? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 A bike? Dates during your lunch break? Asking for the phone number after two "dates" .... putting your arm around her? How old are you guys? I know I will never ask a girl to go on a date on my lunch break again-lol Damm that was DUMB Link to comment
metallicastr2k Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Gold-Digger, NEXT. you shouldnt have to buy someone off, it should be the thought! Why should we HAVE to spend money? Link to comment
metallicastr2k Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 By the way, me and my girl take eachother out. None of this crap where only one of us pays for everything. People are too needy now-days. Link to comment
Yates33 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Guys....I don't think your getting something here...this guy sounds really young....like in his mid teens....15 or so....maybe less....your advice is geared towards adults....again...to the original poster, how old are you? Link to comment
knarf Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 I am 34 years old and she's 22 yes these we're friendly casual lunch breaks. I like her so I was hoping it would turn into more I didn't talk to her today at all and she looked sad I just looked at her, smiled, and gave her the thumbs up signal and she giggled. She didn't say anything to me until there was only a few minutes before closing time. She sent me out of blue a link to a bike she saw online and it was cheaper but it made me think that maybe she was trying to see what she could get out of me. I just said "WoW and it's in your favorite color" and shut down my PC and walked to the time clock. I don't know what's gonna happen tomorrow but alot of my friends are telling me to run Link to comment
Zampotne Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Ask her to buy you something, something equally as strange as you buying her a bike. Expensive sneakers maybe?... see what she does Is this situation as strange to anyone else as it is to me? Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I could never take anyone seriously that much younger than me, they have to be atleast 26, 23 and under is just for FUN.FUN.FUN. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I could never take anyone seriously that much younger than me, they have to be atleast 26, 23 and under is just for FUN.FUN.FUN. Wrong. I think maturity is gained through life experiences not age. I think that you will find that young women who have children or who had to take care of themselves most of thier life will be more mature then 30 year olds. Link to comment
Yates33 Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Ask her to buy you something, something equally as strange as you buying her a bike. Expensive sneakers maybe?... see what she does Is this situation as strange to anyone else as it is to me? Yes!! that's what I've been trying to say....it sounds like two teenagers who work at the local burger joint.....a bike? ? Link to comment
Zampotne Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Yes!! that's what I've been trying to say....it sounds like two teenagers who work at the local burger joint.....a bike? ? That's funny that you said that because I pictured them both in McDonald's uniforms... Link to comment
knarf Posted July 17, 2008 Author Share Posted July 17, 2008 Well she wants the bike to get to work she doesn't live too far from work and to get to nearby places. For exercise and to save money because of the high gas prices. Link to comment
Zampotne Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 Well she wants the bike to get to work she doesn't live too far from work and to get to nearby places. For exercise and to save money because of the high gas prices. So she asks someone who is closer to a STRANGER than a friend to buy it for her? Can you buy me a car and get me a gas card when you're done? Don't think I am being cruel or anything to that affect... I just want you to see how RIDICULOUS this girl is. Link to comment
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