404 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Its been over a year since I found this board and posted about my life. In that time I've worked a lot on my life and tried to help others here on occasion as karmic payback. Eventually I'll try to add a conclusion to that post as I often wonder how things work out for many people here but they rarely say. For now though I have a choice to make and could use some advice. The short version: Married for 6 years Good Husband Wife fought with life/depression and lost She cheated She cheated again I'm heart broken, shes not Counseling didn't work for us She went to live with her folks for a few weeks Wound up back with the "other guy" I asked her to move out Shes heart broken She moves close by I work on my life, she works on hers Months pass - we date Things go great until they don't She lies to me about seeing the other guy (not cheating just seeing him) We wait a while Lather rinse repeat So now here we are, she moved out a year ago and things still don't work. We have had counselors tell us to our face that don't see any hope for us(their words not mine - talk about depressing). I've righted some of my wrongs and admitted to others, but I can't seem to get her to stop lying, handle her depression, or put her past behind her. She claims that she can get it together but only if we can get back on track first so she has something to build a life on(sigh). Everything is already divided, there is no animosity between us and I'm doing well right now(though she is often still depressed). We see each other a couple times a week and it fills the void. Biggest problem is that this isn't going anywhere. SO: As much as I wish I didn't, I still love my wife and hate the idea of divorce as much as I did a year ago, but I don't see any other option. Have we truly done everything we can? Is this where things have to end? When is it ok to say I give up on someone you love? Link to comment
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