everything is making me mad with a friend, especially their cell phone use

[moosemittens22]

i have been friends with somebody for a few years but lately all we do is fight. there is a lot of {Mod Edit} going on between us but one thing that exacerbates the situation is her constant cell phone usage whether its checking voicemails or texting all while we are hanging out together. we are in college, its not like she has an important job. shes just talking with friends. on top of that she always tells me how much she would rather not have to hang out/talk with people...yet shes always on her phone. ive talked to her about how it makes me feel put off and unimportant, because she does this all the time when we are together, to which she replies that im being incredibly selfish. shes a pretty manipulative person so i dont know what to believe anymore. i just feel like she doesnt give a damn. i really need some outside advice on this topic...among others. thanks!

[Clementine orange]

Excessive cell phone use and text checking etc while out with someone else is really annoying and disrespectful. Also smacks of insecurity and the desparate need to impress the other person with their supposed popularity.

I'd kick this person to the curb.

[ImThatGirl]

How often do you hang out with this friend?

 

I think that when people hang out as friends all the time, then some of their personal habits are bound to spill into that time...

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Excessive cell phone use and text checking etc while out with someone else is really annoying and disrespectful. Also smacks of insecurity and the desparate need to impress the other person with their supposed popularity.

I'd kick this person to the curb.

 

Yeah, I agree. It is in essense saying that your company is not that important to her. I would suggest you no longer get together with this person. Keep blowing her off when she asks you to get together...and if she asks why then tell her you are fed up with her constantly texting and contacting others when you are together and since she feels your displeasure is selfish then you are removing yourself from her company so she can spend more time with these other "friends".

[25thfloor]

she's rude and disrespectul. distance yourself. you don't have to break off the friendship...just pull back for awhile. i had a friend doing that and i said i would not go out with her again unless the phone is put up...i don't have time to waste watching someone talk/text on the phone. i have better things to do and better friends to see.

[moosemittens22]

thanks. i just dont understand how im being selfish, according to her. she says that she gets to see me at school all the time and her other friends only during the summer, so me invading on this and feeling angry is being selfish....its really confusing to have somebody tell me that because i pride myself on considering others first.

she also told me that she will not miss me during summer breaks because we will see each other in three months. i dont think thats very nice of her.

regardless, she tells me how great of a friend she is to everybody which is why she has so many friends. gah....im so confused

[25thfloor]

thanks. i just dont understand how im being selfish, according to her. she says that she gets to see me at school all the time and her other friends only during the summer, so me invading on this and feeling angry is being selfish....its really confusing to have somebody tell me that because i pride myself on considering others first.

she also told me that she will not miss me during summer breaks because we will see each other in three months. i dont think thats very nice of her.

regardless, she tells me how great of a friend she is to everybody which is why she has so many friends. gah....im so confused

 

hey sweetie...people will always tell you your this and that to cover up their inadequacies. follow your heart...you know deep down when your demanding or not being considerate. if someone has to explain why she sees me enough, then she really is sick of spending time with me...which is ok...it comes and goes in cycles.