tough_girl Posted January 1, 2004 Share Posted January 1, 2004 I don't even know if this is a problem. Here it is. I'm a young teenager. There is this guy,who is my ex-schoolmate. We don't really meet after I changed school.But recently we get glances at each other during very short meetings when we need to concentrate on something else. At first, I felt nothing. It was my fault I started teasing my friend after I saw her talking to a guy I thought was suitable for her. Then it was my turn to get teased and of all the people there she put me with him. Grr.... I denied it. Then my female friend, G1 has some friends too that get to meet him. They start to spread rumours until that guy thought I liked him,too. He didn't confront me and started to shy away. He has a few male friends at our meeting too and they started teasing him,too. I feel so guilty, after all it's my fault. I don't really feel a lot for him but I found myself avoiding him. Everytime there is another meeting, I dread to go.Sometimes, my heart just beats a little faster to see him.I just don't know why. He even appeared in my dream when I was asleep. Wonder what's wrong with me? I usually don't worry about this things because I feel like every guy is not enough for me and I soon manage to push the thought out of my head. Please give me some advise on what I should do. Get him out of my dreams. Have you any idea what I'm feeling here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neva_black_n_white Posted January 1, 2004 Share Posted January 1, 2004 my advice would be firstly that you say you worry about this, well for starters you are making the situation worse by avoiding him, as when you do see him it is more intense than on a regular basis. it makes it more of a thing to pick up on and what others will read into than if you were to be as normal as you were before. by avoiding him and your heart beating faster as you say, you will also probably come accross nervous in some sense which strengthens the belief in these rumours. so as a ending to this, you need to be forward in yourself, talk to him and sort out the misunderstanding at hand. it will the both of you feel much better, and if he feels as if hes being teased all the time, why not have a joke with him (obviously both of you knowing) and play up to that role. as for you feeling there not good enough, its just you trying to find the right person, its not an imprefection just a characteristic you have. amybe he is the right one. i dont know but all judgements will be based by you anyway. as for the dream. hhm? was it good bad? anyway hope you work this situation out. kel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tough_girl Posted January 2, 2004 Author Share Posted January 2, 2004 Thanks for the reply,neva_black_n_white. It did help a lot. Anyway, the dream was a good one. He was waiting for me somewhere and I think I was supposed to be his date. I hate to admit it but I do fantasize sometimes,too. I don't think that we can go further than best friends because we are still under our parents noses. I can say that they won't be very pleased.*sigh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neva_black_n_white Posted January 2, 2004 Share Posted January 2, 2004 its ok and well if its not what your parents like then fair play, but at some point your emotions or feelings are going to have to come infront of a rule that your parents have set down, just ensure you go about it and talk about it in the right way. as you say hes a best friend make sure you dont avoid him because you dont want to loose the things you have now. as for the dream, well maybe you do like him, just a thing you'll have to see for yourself. dreams show us things we desire or truly want but have yet to see in ourselves have a great year in 2004. kel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tough_girl Posted January 2, 2004 Author Share Posted January 2, 2004 Thanks a lot, neva_black_n_white. It did help! I hope it works out. But there's an issue. I don't really like his friends. Some of them looked like gangsters, Happy 2004 too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neva_black_n_white Posted January 3, 2004 Share Posted January 3, 2004 that may be an issue but you need to think that a look (gangster) doesnt provide you with their personality. id give them a chance, things arent always as they seem, even though they may look a bit rough they may have a heart of gold. up to you, but id get to know them first, might help you out, since you want things to work out, right? anyway thanks. kel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tough_girl Posted January 5, 2004 Author Share Posted January 5, 2004 Oh yeah... I forgot that we shouldn't judge people by their looks. Thank you for reminding me. So,I'll give it a go. Thanks a bunch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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