Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 That thinks an 18 year old girl whom doesn't have a job, lives with her grandma and her NEW boyfriend shouldn't have a kid?!?!?! Does anyone else she anything wrong with teenagers whom dont have anything going for them besides the fact that they "want to be a mother" should try to conceive?!?! I have had baby fever for years now but i have never once acted on it because i know i need to finish school, get a steady job, have a stable relationship, and a place to live before i put kids into the mix. Link to comment
emmie_g Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Im 18 years old and have an 8 month old son, i did not plan it but i personally dont believe in abortion and i was using protection that obviously didnt work! I dont regret my son at all and i love him to bits but i would not reccomend having a baby so young, you miss out on so much. Personally i wish i did have a stable job my own home etc and i would advice any other 18 yr old the same. Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 yeah exactly.. if it happens it happens you just deal with it like you are.. but to actually TRY TO CONCEIVE at that age when you have nothing going for you is just selfish in my opinion.. she has her whole damn life ahead of her to become a mother.. Link to comment
emmie_g Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Yeah deffinatly, Like i say i love my son to bits but i do wish he had come along later on in life. Yeah it is very selfish because the chances are she wont saty with her boyfriend, just like i didnt. My son will have a very good quality of lfe but i think if it had happened in more years to come he could have an even better quality of life. Its not fair on her family if shes trying to conceive, to be honest i think its ridiculous. If only she knew what it was like to be a parent at such a young age! Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 yeah and her boyfriend only works 2 days a week, she doesnt have a job... and she is starting college in the fall... ummm what is she thinking it just blows my mind. I completely understand her want for a child I have that same want but I'm not stupid and selfish to be like whatever i dont care if i struggle or take a risk im going to have a baby now. pfft, people i swear! shes only been with her boyfriend for like 4 months! i just hope she doesnt get pregnant. Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 You mean shouldn't, right? haha, thats for catching that, I edited it. Yes, should NOT Link to comment
emmie_g Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Alls you can do is advise her, if she gets pregnant, she gets pregnant. Theres not alot you can do about that. Just give her advise, make her understand theres alot of things she will not beable to do, simple things like go out with your friends at night. Sleepless nights...Weight gain...stress...the list is never ending. Link to comment
riley123 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Ok, good! Well, if that's what she wants then there's really not too much you can do on top of what you have been doing. Maybe talk to her boyfriend? Link to comment
perceval Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 If you wish to have kids you need to realize that having kids requires taking resposibility. And one of the most important resposibilities of parents is to ensure that there is enough money to sustain a small family... if she doesn't have a job and her new boyfriend works two days a week I do not reckon they are on solid ground financially. Or do they really plan to be a burden on their own parents? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I wish a license was required to have kids. Seriously. Too bad it will never be physically possible. All you can do is advise. Most 18 year olds aren't the brightest crayon in the box yet. She obviously hasn't given much thought to how she will take car of the baby and doesn't have the foggiest idea how much it will change her life and make it hella hard to go to college, if she can even do it. Just because she's "legally" an adult, doesn't mean she IS one emotionally. I certainly wasn't at 18, and I don't know one single person that was. I'm a big fan of that new show where the teenage kids have to watch the baby. I forget what it's called. She should watch that. Link to comment
jengh Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I honestly don't understand some people. I feel sorry for their children. Now, I know accidents happen and should be dealt with accordingly...however, I think it is SO irresponsible to intentionally get pregnant when you have nothing to offer a child. Biiiiig pet peeve right there. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 It's just my personal opinion that if you can't afford children and are not married or in a stable relationship, you should not be having actual intercourse. Birth control can fail at any given time. Have any of you thought of oral sex? Feels great and there are no OOPS involved, ever. Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 I wish a license was required to have kids. Seriously. Too bad it will never be physically possible. All you can do is advise. Most 18 year olds aren't the brightest crayon in the box yet. She obviously hasn't given much thought to how she will take car of the baby and doesn't have the foggiest idea how much it will change her life and make it hella hard to go to college, if she can even do it. Just because she's "legally" an adult, doesn't mean she IS one emotionally. I certainly wasn't at 18, and I don't know one single person that was. I'm a big fan of that new show where the teenage kids have to watch the baby. I forget what it's called. She should watch that. The show is called Baby Borrowers on NBC. Great show, I watch it every Wednesday! (Its on tonight!) Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 I'm glad you all agree because when I hear she was TTC I freaked out on her and now she's mad at me. But sorry I'm not letting her ruin her life or her childs life. I told her she needs to finish school, continue a relationship with this guy, and find a place to live before he thinks about having a child. Link to comment
perceval Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Sometimes people need a friend to open their eyes to the truth... I believe that you did the best thing you could do, although it's probably not what she wants to hear.. Link to comment
Taylor527 Posted July 18, 2008 Author Share Posted July 18, 2008 btw, she's pregnant, 4 weeks along... and guess what...i'm pregnant (unplanned) about 5 weeks along.... crazy aint it. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 actually this Original Post sounds like my friends case! she got pregnant, intentionally when she was 18. back then i only started getting sexually active (though i truly truly wish i had waited till i dunnoo? marriage or something). she was an only child. she lived with her mom.. THEY both lived with the grandma, so they dont even have their own house. her bf didnt even have a job. they both dropped out of school. and though her mom even took her to the doctor to get the pill. she stopped taking it. then they finally told the mom. i felt so sorry for her as she was a very very close family friend. now they are financially.. uhh.. really not so well off. they "get by" just about. the baby's dad isn't in the picture. i think once in a while he sees his kid. Link to comment
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