bingedrinking Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I have always heard that women are less shallow and looks are not so important. I have also heard straight women say that nude men are sometimes quite silly and don't turn them on. But the many lesbians I met have often commented on the size of breasts and other such physical characteristics and are often drawn by looks. Many straight women have even admitted that they watch nude women and are more interested by that. Why is this? So this whole thing of women not being so shallow and men being more visually stimulated may be a myth, I feel. Maybe men's bodies are not so attractive after all. I am somewhat attracted to guys(I am a guy) and I don't feel guys have good looking bodies either. Link to comment
Catdancer Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I think it depends on the person. I think that a man's body is beautiful. I love the contour, the line of thigh, the happy trail leading to his manhood. His balls, his mouth, his eyes, his butt...I just love men. Now, I also love women. I am bisexual and many women turn me on. Not all of them. But on occasion I'll see a woman that just blows me away. There isnt a defining feature that makes me attracted to women, it really depends on the woman. Great legs, a nice round butt, medium sized boobs, too big ones turn me off. A pretty and well made up face. I think that different people are attracted to different things. Link to comment
EQD Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 yeah.. women have better looking bodies. more things to look at. breasts, butt, hips, tummy. thighs... men have... a penis. plus a man with a nice butt is not as appealing as a woman with a nice butt imo. no idea why.. (i am bi, but i think people can agree with me here) Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I'll have to disagree with you... nothing like a womans bottom to make me spring into action. Link to comment
bingedrinking Posted July 9, 2008 Author Share Posted July 9, 2008 I'll have to disagree with you... nothing like a womans bottom to make me spring into action. So you are agreeing with me? Because I said, women's bodies are more attractive. Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I'm a straight woman and nothing is sexier than a nice chiselled lean body of a man. I don't like a lot of muscles like a professional body builder but lean, a bit of muscle is very sexy. I love a man's arms, shoulders, chest, abs, thighs...well...everything. A woman's body is nice and pretty but to me, it gets boring to look at. Link to comment
BetterKarma Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I think IMAbadman mis-read the posts above his. Link to comment
Carmine Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 This is all subjective. I like looking at a woman's body in a sexual way and not a man's body BECAUSE I'M A STRAIGHT GUY. You can't compare the two bodies and say one is universally better than the other. I remember this commercial one time that went like, "Women have it all - smooth skin, hair-free back, perfect curves" ...well, compared to what? A man's features? Men tend to neglect their bodies more than women do because society puts less of a need for them to be attractive. When a guy works on his body though, he can look awesome, and I'm saying this as a heterosexual male. 6 pack abs on a woman look weird and overdone. 6 pack abs on a guy is damn sexy. Link to comment
richmonder80 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 In shape people, in general, are attractive. A fat man or fate woman are both unattractive whereas, a fit man and woman are more attractive. Attractive people are attractive and unattractive people are unattractive. Just because an unattractive woman is a woman does not make her more attractive than an attractive male. There are many criterias in which people find others attractive. A woman might not have the most attractive face but with amazing eyes and great set of teeth that may make her overall attractive. On the issue of lesb. being more looks driven than straight woman is just an opinion and not a fact and so is men being more looks driven than women. Women and men are equally driven by physical attraction. Some men and women are less concerned due to lack of self esteem, open-mindedness, or some other reasons. But physical attraction is predominently the main driver of getting someone's attention. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I have to say that naked pictures of men do not turn me on the same way that naked pictures of girls turn on my guy friends.] Actually, naked pictures of men don't turn me on at all. Nor do pics of women. Link to comment
EQD Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 well i think i have to retract a previous statement i made.. because i just remembered christian bales naked body in American Psycho... *hardon* Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 So you are agreeing with me? Because I said, women's bodies are more attractive. Yes, in my opinion the women's body is far more attractive than a mans. There's all those lumps and curves and stuff... Nummy. Link to comment
StretchGee Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 But the many lesbians I met have often commented on the size of breasts and other such physical characteristics and are often drawn by looks. Many straight women have even admitted that they watch nude women and are more interested by that. Why is this? I feel it is because they have been socialized this way. Women are promoted as sex objects in magazines, TV, movies and all sorts of advertising and media. Sex sells and women are sexualized. Better still, for the advertisers, it is the women who buy the stuff sold as a result of the sexualization of women. I don't buy the "women have more beautiful bodies" statement at all. Look at the Statue of David or other sculpture and their is plenty of beauty (or lack thereof) in the human form male or female. Link to comment
StretchGee Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Yes, in my opinion the women's body is far more attractive than a mans. There's all those lumps and curves and stuff.. Wait'll you lay eyes on my huge pectoral muscles! Link to comment
george237 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 My neighbor is gay and she is what most would consider the butch one. I will sometimes go to her bar because she doesn't know anybody and needs someone to go with. Let me tell you something I see some of the hottest girls there with B. Arthurs. Women are not as shallow as men or at least me. Now since my neighbor is beutiful she does get a lot of action based on her looks but like I said there are loads of hot women with the frumpiest women you'll ever see. Link to comment
unabashed Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I don't think it's necessarily shallow to have a preference for how someone looks, or to be turned on by pictures. Everyone has their individual likes and dislikes. Some people are especially attuned to how someone looks, based on their own standards--which are not always stereotypical standards. I think men and women are not so different from one another on this, whether or not they are heterosexual. I can find someone to be physically beautiful, man or woman, but not be attracted to them. I'm not as visually stimulated as some people seem to be. Scents, eyes, and hands turn me on more than a typcially perfect body. I happen to like someone who has a little more weight, maybe because I am also more curvy (aka chubby). In general, photographs of bodies don't turn me on, regardless of gender. I just can't connect sexually to a photo. Link to comment
unabashed Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 My neighbor is gay and she is what most would consider the butch one. I will sometimes go to her bar because she doesn't know anybody and needs someone to go with. Let me tell you something I see some of the hottest girls there with B. Arthurs. Women are not as shallow as men or at least me. Now since my neighbor is beutiful she does get a lot of action based on her looks but like I said there are loads of hot women with the frumpiest women you'll ever see. I have seen it all. There are women who won't date anyone who isn't as beautiful as a model. Butch, femme, or not--some people have very narrow standards. Just like anyone else. On the other hand, I know a lot of women who prefer a type of woman who is not stereotypically beautiful, but who is attractive to them for their more masculine traits. Not men, but women who are more masculine yet still accepting of being female. People can't help how they're born, so, fortunately, some women find that very attractive. My partner is very masculine, while people don't usually believe I am a lesbian. We look like an odd pair, but it works for us. Link to comment
Superfreak Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 I have to say that naked pictures of men do not turn me on the same way that naked pictures of girls turn on my guy friends.] Actually, naked pictures of men don't turn me on at all. Nor do pics of women. Still pictures of naked women don't do much for me either. Videos on the other hand.... Link to comment
dragon lady Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 When I find other womens' bodies attractive it's because they have some feature that I would like to have myself. I definitely do not find them sexually appealing. Men, on the other hand, if they have a hot body I will not be able to take my eyes off. A tall, slim guy with a little muscle tone will have me drooling.=P~ Link to comment
IMAbadman Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Boo-bees, butts, and legs.... Oh my... Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 i love the curves and shape of a woman, granted they need to take care of themselves but the way the boobies, hips mold into the bum, aaaaaaahhhh!! love it!! as for neked men, sorry dont play that ball game. I can appreciate someone that is fit and lean because that is the way i like to stay in shape but i dont find men attractive. all about the females for drewcious!!!! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 Still pictures of naked women don't do much for me either. Videos on the other hand.... Not even really videos. I will admit that I never really become attracted to a guy until after a while into dating. I mean, my last boyfriend was pretty hot but I couldn't see it for a while. Link to comment
off_the_record Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I have to say that naked pictures of men do not turn me on the same way that naked pictures of girls turn on my guy friends.] Actually, naked pictures of men don't turn me on at all. Nor do pics of women. Same here, though I have to say, I have female friends that go gaga over male nudity... and talking about men's features... To me, the only important thing in a male's body is the face. Particularly the eyes. Big, deep, dark brown eyes. Other than that hair maybe. Not blonde. A bit of a tan (well I'm from South America). But the body? While I agree that a male that stays fit is nice to look at, it isn't really important just as long as he isn't on the extremes (too fat, too thin, too muscular). Also, body hair... DO NOT REMOVE ANY! I wouldn't like being with a man with less body hair than me! And you know what else? Sometimes a bit of a beer belly is sexy! I just like a guy who looks like a guy, plain regular guy. So yes, that's the shallow talk I would give my friends. But in all honesty, looks ain't that important. If I put the men I've been attracted to in my life in a row, you'd be shocked by the differences. You probably wouldn't think they were picked by the same woman. Usually to me the attraction occurs in an instant. You may look at them and think they're plain, but they have a je ne sais quoi (or however you write that). Edit: Thinking a bit more about this, I also think it's all about timing. Maybe a guy I meet at a party or a concert will sweep me off my feet there, and the attraction will stay, whereas had I met him at the supermarket or the doctor's office, it wouldn't have worked out that way. Attraction is really weird, actually. And you know, scratch the preferences I wrote above. Never say never is what I say. Life has surprised me more than once finding myself attracted to someone who really isn't my type. And sometimes one of those "hotties" that girls drool over, well I talk to them, they have nothing in common with me and well... they're not drool worthy. We just have to face (and I'm working on accepting this fact) that we're all people, and we're all lookers and shallow to some extent. Some people look more than others, some are more shallow than others. We all talk about other people's appearances, regardless of sexual preference. BTW, a straight guy who can talk about other attractive men without fearing he'll sound gay - now THAT'S a turn on! That's a secure man! Straight women always talk about other beautiful women, I don't know why straight guys don't. They should. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 also, On a side note. I don't like guys who are "hot". I don't find people who are classified as "hot" all that attractive. Cute is a lot more appealing to me. Link to comment
george237 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I have to say that naked pictures of men do not turn me on the same way that naked pictures of girls turn on my guy friends.] Actually, naked pictures of men don't turn me on at all. Nor do pics of women. I kind of feel the same way. I love the all american girls. If you are still a knockout w/out your makeup on in the morning then your a keeper. Link to comment
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