break up before marriage

[saltnpepper1607307796]

I was going to get married next month, and we broke up. He suddenly called it quits.No reason, to talk, just a text msg. I was moving to a different country after marriage, where he stays; so i resined from my job etc. , all my friends and relatives know about the wedding. I dunno wat to do now. Job is gone, everything is gone, Feels like I hit rockbotttom. I want to stand up again, build my life again. I just dunno how to .

[greensleeves]

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. That was a really lousy thing for him to do. I can't imagine how you must feel right now.

 

Did you already have wedding plans confirmed and had invitations gone out?

[saltnpepper1607307796]

The invitations havent gone out yet, thankfully!! but i feel so broken, especially with the job also gone. I dont see a direction in life.

[greensleeves]

All you can really do it pick yourself up and start over. It might not hurt to call up your old job and see if they'd have something for you. Lean on your friends and family and keep yourself busy. It'll be okay, it's just going to take some time. Keep in mind that you're lucky that you didn't marry him...anyone that would call off a wedding by text is pond scum.

[NametheGame]

If you resigned from your job on good terms with your employer, I'm sure they'd be glad to have you back...it's always easier to keep an old employee than find and break in a new one. That'd take care of that part of things at least. If not there are plenty more out there, it just takes a little bit more looking.

As for friends and family, just tell them the truth. You have nothing to be embarrassed about if that's what worries you. This is COMPLETELY his choice. You should reach out to friends and family during this point, it will help you a lot.

 

I am really sorry about what happened. That was a really horrible thing for him to do. I wish you the best in rebuilding your life. You sound like a strong person - your first impulse is to "stand up again". You go!

[ghost69]

that really sucks. keep your head up and your options open. don't look back if this was a bad breakup which it sounds.

[Merri]

I know exactly how you're feeling because I just went through the same thing. My fiance of 2 1/2 years just broke it off with me on Sunday because he feels like he lost his independence and that is what defines who he is. Sorry excuse in my book but I guess I have no other choice but to move on for the sake of my kids and his. It's devastating I know....it feels like your heart just fell out of your chest and your just waiting for them to pick it up and put it back where it belongs. I know it's hard and it's going to take a while to get over but I just keep telling myself that it's better he tell me this now than to go through with a wedding. I just keep hoping that he'll take this time away and reflect on the good that's sitting right in front of him. If not then it's his loss and I wish him all the happiness in the world. Life is too short to depend on one person for our happiness. We are in control now of how we move forward and what we do next. Take advantage of that and be strong. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. I wish you all the luck in the world. Keep us posted if anything changes.

[Merri]

My best advice would be to set yourself a goal and say I'm gonna get through the next 5 minutes and then the next half hour and just go from there. Even though it feels like the end of the world it's not. If it's meant to be he'll come back and be willing to work on things. I truly believe in that. If not then there is someone else out there for us even though we're not even thinking of it at the moment.