Ten Ocho Posted July 9, 2008 Share Posted July 9, 2008 Hello all, It's been a long while since I was last on here. Last year my wife and I separated, and it was really the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. She went from kind and courteous to flat out mean almost overnight. around halloween, I went NC. She ended up coming to my family's home on Christmas eve, bringing a few hundred dollars in gifts for everyone....including me. Not that I cared about the gifts, but it was a weird turnaround from where she had been, especially after 2 months of NC. Anyways, for whatever it's worth, NC did seem to work. She really changed. We started hanging out again after that, and really started to get good over these last few months. Last month we went on vacation together and finally made love and afterwords, have been hanging out all of the time, getting along great. Then last weekend she had a headache and wasn't in the best of moods. She snapped once or twice so I got kind of quiet, wanting to avoid escalating it. It was weird because earlier in the morning she was still very friendly. anyways, after dinner she dropped me off, then called about an hour later to say things aren't working out. Completely out of left field. She mentioned a few things, but they are waaaaayy too petty, and she is not that shallow. As best as I can figure, she either doesn't want to be in a tied down relationship again (probable) or she never was really sure she wanted to start things up again, but was willing to give it a partial shot to see if she had been wrong in the first place (likely). What a waste of a year! Year to the date last year, coincidentally. I seriously have done everything possible over the last twelve months, more than anyone else would have, and FAR more than she was giving back. Somehow it still wasn't enough. I can't stress enough how great the last few months were. That makes it a hell of a lot tougher to understand. She says she still loves me, and that it's not about that. She says she just does not believe we are compatible. I guess she is right. anyways, just wanted to share my update. Hopefully everyone else is having better luck. Link to comment
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