Conversatons?

[akazie]

I have been working on building my self esteem and confidence but I am still having a problem with talking to new people. It isn't nerves (thanks to my medication lol) that is stopping me, I just don't know what to say so I just end up standing there. I have noticed that people do try to talk to me but I am a rather boring person so the normal conversation starters don't work with me, an example would be "Do you have any children?" my response "No", so the conversation just stops there. How do I fix this problem?

 

TIA

[NorthDallas40]

"Do you have any children?" my response "No", so the conversation just stops there.

 

Funny. If I asked a girl that question and she said "Yes," THAT'S when the conversation would stop.

[McLovin oo7]

I have been working on building my self esteem and confidence but I am still having a problem with talking to new people. It isn't nerves (thanks to my medication lol) that is stopping me, I just don't know what to say so I just end up standing there. I have noticed that people do try to talk to me but I am a rather boring person so the normal conversation starters don't work with me, an example would be "Do you have any children?" my response "No", so the conversation just stops there. How do I fix this problem?

 

TIA

 

I am also very bad with conversations.

 

Try "open ended" (Dont remember if this is the right term) conversations. I am not sure if it would help a lot but it can keep you going for some time.

 

So for example instead of asking did you have your dinner, ask what did you have for your dinner. By doing so you get an answer (I had this, that and this for my dinner) that is open ended and you may continue the conversation on "this, that and this".

 

I am not sure it would work, but learnt it 10 years ago somewhere.

[george237]

You just have to say whatever is on your mind and go with it. Do you have kids? No, but my neighbor has a 2 year old that is the funniest kid in the world. Boom conversation started