duchesstigerlily Posted July 8, 2008 Share Posted July 8, 2008 So, my husband and I thought we might be pregnant but I found out on Sunday that I'm not despite the fact that I had no period and some symptoms (I think I need to change my birth control pill...too many weird things happening!). If I was pregnant it would have been an "accident" and at first we were stressed because I am trying to get fulltime permanent status with my job which means an dramatic increase in salary *before* we started a family. Also, once I'm fulltime/permanent I will be entitled to 93% of my annual earnings for 1 year maternity leave and without that, we would be in a tight position even though my Husband has a well-paying job. Anyway, by the time I took the test we had both warmed to the idea and I couldnt believe how utterly shattered I was when the result was negative. I thought I would be ok but I immediately started crying and I've felt kind of down and disappointed about it since then. I even had a dream last night that I had a baby and it is all so bizarre considering that we werent even planning to have a baby for at least another 6 months-year. My husband was disappointed too and has been supportive but I can't help but feel let down. How do you resign yourself to the fact that now isnt the "time" when in your heart it is what you really want? So many posts are about women having babies they dont want etc. but there are never many about those that can't due to financial factors etc. etc. even though they really want too. I'm 25 and the hubby is 31...married for 3 years so we certainly arent kids! Link to comment
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